..........then why do we still burst with joy when they actually give us wat we wanted from them in our hearts....
2007-12-22 04:20:59 · 22 answers · asked by Μađħaνi 6 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Do you? Or you have given up on getting what you deserve that when it is finally given to you, your heart rejoices "Yes there is a god !"
You had expectations that were never met when you put in the work. Now that you have settled into being somewhat cynical, you get surprised that it was even given to you? Does that make sense in regards to your question? or were you thinking just plain surprise !!!!
2007-12-22 04:45:15 · answer #1 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We can and do 'expect' from others ... but what we can not do is 'depend' on them. I used to think this was silly (and I'm a psychologist) until my husband had a stroke. I depend on this man, and I am NEVER leaving him, and I realized that if I had let myself 'depend' on his being there in the form I like best then I could 'leave him' easily when he needed me most. As it is, he is actually BETTER than he was before the stroke now, but I have learned a very important lesson ... we may expect, we may want and even need ... but if we DEPEND on another, that relationship is DOOMED because the day may come when that person needs to DEPEND on us.
As for the 'joy' ... my husband just gave me the most wonderful Christmas gift, and I do feel 'joy' ... but that is only one one hudredth of the JOY I felt when my husband got better after his stroke ... I don't 'depend' on him any more, I don't expect as much, nor need as much ... and he can now 'give' me MORE because he's 'free' of my expectations. Merry Christmas ... and Happy New Year.
2007-12-22 12:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The inescapable reverse to this quandary is that we inherently do not expect "anything" from others, but, we do expect "everything" form others. Free will being the governing law with regards to interaction, the unlimited actions and reactions that are possible are rather loosely categorized into positive and negative happenstances. Not only do we have a categorically induced response to an action from the positive repository, but, we are inherently relieved and duplicitous overjoyed by the lack of an alternative response from the other category. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-12-22 12:30:33 · answer #3 · answered by Pee Amigo No 3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well actully this is a yes and no question. It just depends on the circumstances.
In your case where you are talking about getting presents it is better to not expect getting things from others because it creates more happiness in you once you do get it (your more thankful). Plus expecting someone to get you something is kinda selfish.
There are times where we do have to have expectations though. Like jobs for instance. My dad is a piolit and they have to hold very high expectations of them because they have the lives of many people in their hands each time they get into the planes.
I wish they would uphold better expectations for CEOs. Northwest's CEO rewarded himself with 26 million dollars this year when they got out of bankrupcy. And why is this bad? Because he had cut the employees fares by double.
2007-12-22 12:27:25 · answer #4 · answered by iheartwater0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Vague question, but I know what you are talking about. :)
I think you can have expectations from people. You should be able to expect honesty from loved ones. You should expect that your friend will pick you up from the airport if she said she would... So "expectations" is not the right word.
If someone tells you to have "no expectations" in a relationship.... here is what it really means: It is wrong to expect someone else to fill your emotional needs (because no one will ever be able to).
We must fill our emotional needs ourselves. Only then can we begin on a spiritual growth with that person we love...
2007-12-22 12:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by whimsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We burst with joy exactly because we don't expect it. Thus, why you don't burst with joy over your paycheck, but do over the perfect gift.
2007-12-22 12:23:15 · answer #6 · answered by dlb_blair 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, that's a pretty narcissistic view of life to begin with, but still if you don't expect something you can be happy when you receive it.
For example, everyone would love to find a $50 bill on the ground, but you never expect to. If it happens, you're still excited.
2007-12-22 12:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by Born at an early age 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Correct
2007-12-22 12:23:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's OK to expect something from others, but i do have a problem with expecting too much.
2007-12-22 12:25:33 · answer #9 · answered by lssm37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's human nature. It's also human nature to want things. We have to learn how to channel our wants and focus on the needs.
When we do receive something we really wanted, it's only natural that you'd be overjoyed to get it!
2007-12-22 12:24:05 · answer #10 · answered by Beth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋