How does it feel when you know you are going to be divorced in a week and wish inside heart that it doesn't happen (just for the heck of it.)
Im totally nervous. Is this normal? Does my intuition tell me Im must not divorce? Why do I get crazy thoughts...Please help me
2007-12-22 03:58:32 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No your natural fear of change is kicking in. Get through it and don't go back. Everything will come back to the bad way it was over time if you allow yourself to chicken out over your fear of change. You will adjust and be just fine. Yes you may struggle, but everything worthwhile cost struggles.
2007-12-22 04:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by a2z_alterego 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just went through a divorce in July. The week before it was VERY emotional for me, even though we both wanted the divorce. My ex-husband says he felt the same way. It's the final step, and after all the waiting, and legal stuff...when it finally happens, the reality of it made me sick. Even on the day of our divorce, we stood in front of the judge holding hands for support, and we were both crying. But we knew it was best.
Divorcing at Christmas time doesn't help, so I should probably add tht the day I was in divorce court was also my 50th birthday. It was like pouring salt in a wound.
What you're feeling is normal and natural. It's a very scary time, and it's very final. I'm sorry...and I wish you strength.
2007-12-22 04:07:08 · answer #2 · answered by LolaCorolla 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a clinical perspective, divorce is a grief process. You must pass through the stages of grief. Unfortunately, the signing of the papers is usually the beginning, not the end of the emotional process.
1)Denial-"it can't be happening to me..."
2)Anger-"Why me?......
3)Bargaining-"Maybe if I....."
4)Depression-"I'm so sad....."
5)Acceptance-"It's going to be ok..."
These don't necessarily happen in the order listed, and the most common problem is getting "stuck" in any one stage.
If you think you should not get divorced and your spouse feels the same way, by all means get some professional counseling and see if it can be worked out.
2007-12-22 04:11:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce brings up all kinds of emotions. Just ask yourself why you wanted it in the first place; abuse, etc. Was it a good reason? If so, then go through with it. You have another side to this, the other person, do they want it too? Only you know what is going on, you have to make the right decision.
2007-12-22 04:01:57 · answer #4 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Life,
Don't worry, during a Divorce it is a confusing time, it really is! A Divorce is emotionally draining to begin with. yes it is normal to have mixed emotions like you are!
Maybe your Intuition is nagging at you to talk to your Spouse before you go through with ending your marriage first of all! Does he want to end it?
Is he willing to stop the procedures?
You are married! You both should be able to talk about ANYTHING about your lives! IT isn't too late to work things out!!!!!!!!!!
Talk to Him/Her before you take the Divorce any further!
follow your heart! that's all!
My Best to You!
2007-12-22 04:08:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have these thoughts you must still care. All this is running though you mind and is only normal. If you weren't nervous then you would be ready to move on. Plus, it doesn't help that Christmas is just around the corner. Who you spent this day with.. Pray that always helps. Believe me the answer will be right in front of you,..
Merry Christmas!
2007-12-22 04:04:28 · answer #6 · answered by lannette27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider it done and over with. The feelings you're getting are kind of like those pre wedding jitters and second thoughts just before you got married. But you still went through with it regardless of those feelings. We all wish our marriage would last forever, but it never seems to work out that way.
Although it may be difficult, you need to accept things as they are, and pick up the remaining pieces of your life, hold on to your self respect and move on.
Good luck.
2007-12-22 04:09:26 · answer #7 · answered by Tripod T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the converse to cold feet before a wedding. I don't know the circumstances of your divorce but if it is truly a mistake, you'll be able to take the time to work out differences and try again, if it is truly meant to be.
2007-12-22 04:02:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost reliefed
It depends why you are getting a divorce for bad reasons or just because you cant handle your partner.
2007-12-22 04:02:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the thought of major CHANGE in your life, look forward & think about what you will be doing a year from now instead of dwelling on the end of a bad relationship
2007-12-22 04:00:57 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋