I'm 13 and feel really hurt is this right or was he just trying to help?

Question

For the first 3 months of coming back to school I was bullied by this girl who played with my mind by being really nasty to me and was really nice to my two best friends, both of my friends knew she was doing this and they still where best friends with her, she didn't stop with her games and my "friends" still didn't stick up for me. I got really low so I went to see my head of lower school and she got things loking more optimistic, I was going to move to the other side of my year and be in totally different classes to them, I do have a lot of friends in my side but I didn't feel there was any other choice. My 2 friends weren't really bothered but everytime I went to see my head of lower school they quizzed me about when I was going to move,, then one day one of my "friends" just started on me saying oh just shut up and stormed off, my other "friend" straight after her. It's been about a month since then and I've got some really good friends in my side of the year that have..

like taken me in from everything thats been going on and changed my mind about moving (for the moment anyway). I found out that my old friends have been really b*tching about me behind my back and saying some really hurtful things about me, they are best friends with the bully. I don;t really care what they do as long as they leave me alone, but they've taken it a step further, they've been to annother teacher and said lots of lies about me and he wanted to have a word with me and said that in the new year he wants us to all sit down because she dosn't want to be the first to apologise!! I havn't done anything that needs to be apologised for, I got really upset so he took me to my head of lower school and she said she was going to talk to him. I know he was only trying to help but he dosnt even know whats been going on,, and he could have done it on any day but did it on the last day of term, it's just bought back everything thats happended and made me really upset again.

Answer 1

Tell your parents what's going on so they can speak to the school. First of all though, dump those 2 supposed friends of yours. They aren't proper friends. Enjoy the new ones you have made and stop worrying about all this. Let the pair of them and the bully-girl stew in their own juice.

Answer 2

Whats happening to you is not nice but like you said that you have made new friends. Why should you have to move or apologise? Don't! If you are asked to apologise, ask what for, if they have good grounds for you to make an apology then yes do it and then walk away. I don't think you should move though that's just saying that the bullies have won. You should stick it out and at the end of the day you will be the bigger person. If they continue to bully you, then complain and tell your parents so they can have a chat with the bullies parents. If you complain to the head then maybe he/she can invite the parents down so they can have aword with them. Either way you don't have to put up with being bullied nor you should you have to move. :O)
Merry xmas to you.

Answer 3

i think he was trying to help but i do not think he knew how to help and how not to help,he thought he knew what he was doing but he didn't, basically talk to the boy and say i am not
going to sit down with them and apologize after all thats happened, let him know about the full story and then he will realize

and as for your old "friends" they were never your friends and they never will be,they are backstabbing, spiteful people, you should basically try to brake of all contact from these three horrible people, try not to look at them, i know this bit is hard but try not to get upset around them because then they know that the things they are saying about you are getting to you and they won't stop

if you start to get physical abuse and the school are not giving out punishment or they are only giving her little punishments then go to the police, if you are being physically attacked then you can ask the police to have a word with her and give her a warning that if she does anything again you will press charges

try to stick with your new friends and let them know that any rumours and things about you are not true,.

hope you have no more trouble from these worthless people


here is a link to a phone number that you can ring about bullying and someone to talk to when you are feeling down:

childline- 0800 1111

links to websites-

http://www.textsomeone.com

http://www.childline.org.uk/extra/bullyingindex.asp- this is a good one because its like the phone number but here is gives you top 10 tips to stop bullying,a bullying diary to record when you are being bullied and other victims story's

http://www.childline.org.uk/extra/bullyingindex.asp



i hope it stops....merry Christmas

-jake

Answer 4

Tell your parents what is going on and they can come in and speak to your teachers about what is happening.
Please try not get too upset about it they are just silly immature girls and i know its hard bit ignore and just have fun with your real friends.Act like yo don't care and they will soon get the message!

Answer 5

i know it's easier said than done, but try to ignore what's going on, concentrate on your good friends, let them support you, if you let the nasty ones get to you, they will, you need to be strong here, bullies are cowards. have you spoken to your parents at all? i'm a parent of a girl near your age, i'd want to know how unhappy my daughter was

Answer 6

It sounds confusing but they are not real friends if they treat you like this cut your losses and just stick with people that have respect for you as a human being above all else.

Answer 7

Same thing happened to me! Exept my friend was friends with this other girl and she didnt like me, so I just left. It's made a difference for me because now my ex friends are sluts and everyone hates them! And i'm with friends that like me for who I am.

Answer 8

Your friends are crap friends
Dont talk to them or anything focus on your new friends

Answer 9

can you bee more clear cause it seems like your missing some details . Thanx