Can you list down all the things I can do for me to move on?

Question

Im sick of being depressed... everytime I see this person that I thought he's my bestfriend,i always feel tired, angry or whatever makes my feelings heavy,i was always there times of trouble but when im at the times i need someone to talk to...he never been there... I feel so depressed... I want to remove him in my mind...

New Year, 2008, i need to do something..i need to avoid that pero but i dont want him to think that im avoiding him...
I want to move on...im so sick of it...so sick... Im still hoping that he would want to talk to me, with any moves to make him response from him... But im tired of hoping.. so tired... my mind is full of negative things... I want him to feel that he can't live without him...help guys...help me guys help me! list all teh things that i need to do in this way: (see below)

1. stop this that..
2. do this that
3. blah blah
4.
5.

i would really appreciate it. if you help me....

go guys im listing them down!i will be waiting!! Thanks so much!

Answer 1

1. Spend time with others to keep your mind off of him.

2. Don't be so helpful toward him, and remind him of what he did to you.

3. Be nice --- you rub off on people.

4. Don't be afraid to end this "friendship", it seems to be going nowhere.

5. Remember, your life is your life! Do whatever you can to make yourself happy, don't let others hold you down.

Merry CHRISTmas, and have a HAPPY New Year!

Answer 2

1. stop wanting revenge. this need to do so will keep you chained to him, believe me.

2. don't care if he thinks your avoiding him. you are!!!

3. stop thinking things might work out. you don't want them to, you have made up your mind. yes you have! strip all the i think i wants away and your left with he's an *** or dog,NEXT!

4. get a life. that's not being mean. but, carry on with your life. stop giving him the privledge of the fact that he is still ruling your life. get involved with things that either keeps you happy or at least keeps you busy.

5. when ever your mind wonders towards the thoughts of him? cut it out and say no.

6. use that saying this too shall pass. remember that time heals all. this is only a slump. things will turn good eventually well, with your participation of coarse.

7. stop caring.

8. in your journal only when it's needed reread what you wrote of why you must move on. or write out how much of a dog he is and why your life is gonna be soooo much better when you move on.

9 in the begining call your friends and dog him out. that always makes me feel better. and talk about how good it will feel when you are free of him.

10. at home try to visualize this. if you took away all the exterior of him. his clothes his skin and he's just left with ugly muslce would you be soooo attracted to him based on his soul and personality? with every thing gone that is glamorous would he still be a good person? NO.

this last one is goopy but, it actually worked for me.

oh love conqours all. this doesnt' seem like it works coz your all pissed off now. but, love heals all. even when you are pissed wish him well. list all the things that you feel sorry for him and just wish him well, it's easier to work with love then hatred. hatred makes you cling long and hard to another. and do you know who pays the price? that's right you not him. while your home all depressed not eating etc.... he's living his own life how miserable he is or not. so work on all of this.

good luck hope this was helpful.



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Answer 3

1. Take some spelling and grammar lessons.
2. Quit being so desperate.
3. Quit being so dramatic.
4. Think about the people on this planet who have real life and death problems; yours will pale in comparison.
5. Go do some volunteer work. Helping others is always a good idea.
6. Change your daily routines which cause you to possibly encounter this person.
7. Go out a enjoy your life; it's the only one you get.

Answer 4

1. Keep yourself busy! Throw yourself into work and really focus on advancing your career.
2. Take a really amazing vacation somewhere. Go somewhere beautiful and exciting. It'll help you realize that this person isn't the be all end all of life.
3. Volunteer. Nothing takes your mind off your troubles like helping someone else with theirs. Especially since seeing someone going through something really terrible (like having a loved one die or being homeless) will make you see that maybe what you're going through isn't really that bad.
4. Exercise. Working out actually does produce endorphins in your body that make you feel good. Not to mention it helps work off anxiety, and makes you look great too.
5. Write this person a letter that you never intend to mail just to get all your feelings out and be done with it. Sometimes when you see it all on paper you realize that this person really shouldn't be in your life anyway because they were just toxic.
6. Start dating and meeting new people. Sometimes a new person in your life can be like a breath of fresh air and make you wonder why you were so determined to hold on to people who were only bringing you down.
7. Do fun interesting things just for yourself. Take a cooking class. Take up a hobby. Treat yourself to delicious food or luxurious spa treatments. And see lots of funny movies.
8. Pray about it. Whatever your religion, it is sometimes comforting to believe that there is a higher power on your side who will help you through.
9. Stop obsessing about him and what you wish he would feel. You can't control what anybody else thinks, feels, or does. You can only control yourself. So focus on you and making your own life great. After all, the best revenge really is living well.
10. If your negative thoughts really get out of control, go see a therapist and talk it out.

Answer 5

there is not really much u can do but i am also kinda parccially go through a little bit of the same thing right now so i wont b much help but have u tried asking him how he feels bout u??????? see if he wants 2 hang????? idk it is pretty hard 2 just get someone of of ur thoughts espessially wit how it sounds like u r so attached 2 him. but i know u dont just want 2 hear "o time is the only thing that will do it" cuz seriously u already kno dat and u wood not have posted dis question just 2 hear dat but 2 tell u the truth dat basically really is all u can do. u can make a list of all the bad qualities. start 2 realize how much of a jacka$$ they r... try factoring out all the good qualities and focus on the bad stuff. it wont do much but will hopfull help u 2 stop liking them in dat way but u can still b friends wit them. i sort of helped me now i really only like the guy as a friend but i wood not say no if he asked me out. try liking someone else pay more attention 2 the other ppl in ur life and see if u can detect if anyone else likes u, dat also helped me. there is not much u can do espessially if u like them this much but if any of this duz not help then try asking them what they think of u. see if they wood be willing 2 date u or somthing it will put an ease 2 ur problems and if u date them then u will kno u were not just a junky friend of theirs. sorry i cood not help more i hope u make it through!!!!!!!!BEST WISHES!!!!

Answer 6

OH MY GOSH. I CAN SO RELATE. But I've been reading Seventeen and stuff which has seriously SAVED MY LIFE and some other questions.

Ways of starting out new, becoming new, and stop the depression cycle.

These are the things that help with depression

1. exercise

2. self acceptence by not blaming your body for something that happened

3. eat extremely healthy because it helps you with the way you look and it affects your mood. OH I GOT THIS OUT OF SEVENTEEN. This helps you become happy.
Feeling sad?

Eat 1 cup of raspberry sorbet with 2 vanilla wafers, half and english muffin with jam, and 1 granola bar.
WHY: CARBS (SUGAR, STARCH, AND FIBRE) HELP RELEASE SEROTONIN, THE BRAIN CHEMICAL THAT MAKES YOU FEEL HAPPY

4. make a passion list and write down the 10 top things you want out of 2008. I wrote on mine, get a boyfriend, first kiss, get into the advance dance at school, etc.

5. help with a cause andyou'll feel good about yourself. and its a good thing to do.

6. laugh more because it helps you with your heart and makes you happier and affects your mood.

7. sleep also affects your mood so get at least 9 HRS OF SLEEP. Not 8, 9 hRS!!

8. drink alot of water, it helps you hydrate your skin, keeps you focused, etc.

9. eat healthy and eat a variety of healthy foods. You can research all the things you need like try, food pyramid foods you need everyday.

10. spend a lot of time with your parents because they're not going to be here long and express your feelings to them. Its tough but it'll definately boost your confidence and give you a stronger relationship with your parents.

11. own a journal or guitar so you can express your feelings.

12. read books because that makes you smarter and lets you come up with things to say when having a conversation and do something exciting with your life that'll also help with confidence

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Answer 7

Take up a new hobby, read a self help book, take up meditating, tell your self that you are better off without him, tell yourself that you are moving on with your life. it is hard to move on I know, but YOU have to do it. Don't stay Stuck in that state of mind you are in. Snap out of it. Sing a happy song everyday to put your mind in another place. Think happy thoughts about your family, your friends. Take a walk...get fresh air in your lungs. Work out. Get in a different routine of doing things. Don't stagnate....keep busy. Smile more. Meet new people........Don't think about what he thinks of you avoiding him.....Just Move On. What matters here is YOU only You. Take Care of You.!

Answer 8

Well, this is all I can offer:

1. Take a deep breath, and turn around.
2. If he's that much of a jerk, just ignore him. Look away.
3. Don't talk to him if he tries to talk to you.
4. Stretch it out and just enjoy yourself. Sooner or later, he'll realize his mistake.
5.Be optomistic!

That's all I can offer, but I tried! I hope it helps, at least a little bit. ^^

Answer 9

hey,dont feel depressed..it's gonna be a new year so get something new!! =)

1. stop thinking abt it but do give him a chance if he wants 2 work things out
2. remind urselves dat u have ur own life to live
3. make more frens
4 continue being frens with him but dont let him bother u
5. take care of yourself..!!

Answer 10

PINOY ako pinoy tayo!! hmm u should buy tickets and say hey dude u want to see a movie? like that and stop doing like getting away from him when he feels like an enemy once GOD said love ur friends but love ur enemies MORE and liketalk to him text him stay with an other friend and talk to him

2nd option thats the 1st option and now the 2nd

when hes talking to you go and turn on ur phone and call someone or like say gotta go gotta pee like that and do the samething that he had done to you and ask him where he is and tell him to meet u at the mall and go to another mall like u say nordstrom go to nordstrom rock like that and barns and nobles go to another barns and nobles or just go to another place and tell him that ur cellphone was off