I had and old friend/ex whom I have know for 11 years, but we havent seen or heard from each other in about 7 years after high school, because I have moved away. Recently, I found a way to contact him,but I also found out that he might be married. I don't want to rekindle any romance (because I'm dating someone also),but just to possibly resume a friendship, if possible.
2007-12-22 02:49:26 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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2007-12-22 02:52:50 · answer #1 · answered by rajat jain 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is one of those situations where there's hard history and good history between you guys. If you go back to her to talk to her, how do you know if you guys will develop a relationship or friendship and then she'll be up to her old tricks. But then at the same time you don't know if she could've actually changed and become more mature about this situation. For this one, I can't really suggest anything. All i can say is this: 1) Don't let a low friend pool make you search for people that you've had a mixed past with. and 2) Only you know what can be done. but if you decide to find her, just be read for anything.
2016-05-25 22:54:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it were just a friend interest you wouldn't be in such a quandary over what to do. you would just do it. i think you think it's a friend interest but, stop and really think about it.
i don't think that it would be a good idea at all. if he's married think about the whole situation and everyone involved. he has a wife now. I'm sure the wife wouldn't take too kind to an old girlfriend showing up at the door so to speak. and where would this leave him? maybe one dinner with the wifey around might happen as long as you bring your boyfriend to make it clear that it's just a friend saying hello and that's it.
but, honestly i don't see a friendship being rekindled here. he would not go for it. coz the wife's feelings come first. your boyfriend would be like um... i don't think so.
i don't see any good coming from contacting him, i think in the end you will wind up getting hurt when it doesn't work out.
i really hope this is helpful and good luck.
he's married and this changes all.
2007-12-22 03:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'd drop him a little note asking him how he has been. Be brief & polite about it.
Since this is the holiday season you have a perfect excuse. You can send him a christmas card. Just write to him saying that you found his info & wanted to see how he was doing. Mention that you heard he got married & that you want to extend your congratulations towards the two of them & that you have found someone wonderful as well. If he is local, ask them (make sure to make it a "you two" since this will show his wife that you are thinking of them as a pair instead of just addressing him) if they'd like to have a meal together sometime. Then at the end you can give him your contact information & just see where it goes from there. If he doesn't respond then just shrug it off & go on with your life as usual. I hope that the two of you can be somewhat friends again.
If he were to respond & try to get romantic, just politely repeat that you are dating someone already & you are quite happy with him. Make sure that your boyfriend knows that you are going to send this letter off. You don't have to have his permission, but it is nice to let him know that you are trying to get back in touch with an ex. He'll appreciate that you are upfront about what you are doing.
2007-12-22 02:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard question to answer. It all depends. If you still have little feelings for him, leave it alone. Things can only get bad by getting in contact with him again. Old feelings will come back, and may even lead to a secret fling...even if it is over the internet. But than again, if it is just a friend that you would like to know what he has been upto, no problem.
2007-12-22 02:55:29 · answer #5 · answered by Hazel Eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Extremely BAD idea here! You will be putting your current relationship in jeopardy, as well as his possible marriage! Forget it! Move on with your life and quit living in the past!
2007-12-22 02:53:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
I think you should definitely initiate contact. It will be up to her whether she responds or not, but you could take the first step. And old friend of mine recently contacted me on Myspace, and I'm very glad he did
2007-12-22 02:52:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do the old friend its always the best.
2007-12-22 02:52:52 · answer #8 · answered by darkumbreon12 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my advice is Don't Contact Him
if you are involved, and he might be...don't...
it will only cause conflicts
2007-12-22 02:53:18 · answer #9 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope it's not a good idea now that he's married
2007-12-22 02:53:05 · answer #10 · answered by tinker77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course, why not
2007-12-22 02:54:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋