My friend wanted to take a shower with me and were both guys. I never new he was gay. i don't want to hurt his feelings so what should i say? i told him maybe later just so he wouldnt ask again.
2007-12-22 02:38:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
In some places It's fairly normal to have men bathing together. I know that they do it in Japan quite often.
If you aren't comfortable with it, just tell him that you don't think that it is a good idea since you aren't that comfortable bathing with another guy. Be firm about this. If you don't like something, don't let another person coerce you into doing it. Saying no doesn't mean that you are being nasty to someone. His feelings will not be hurt. However, if he were to try to emotionally blackmail you into doing it then you need to find a new friend. Friends don't do blackmail one another.
2007-12-22 02:44:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to be honest with him because if you keep going, "Oh maybe later" then hes gonna get it and get hurt because you could have been honest with him and you were too afraid to tell him and that could offend him.
Just tell him, "Sorry but I dont feel comfortable doing that" be kind but also be straight forward with what you have to say.
2007-12-22 10:44:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, u cannot be too good a friends with him if u didn't know he was gay, cause he would have known you werenot. Why did u say "maybe later"? I would have said to my friend if she asked, are u f'in kidding me? Didn't u ask him why he even asked u? Did u just leave it at that? If u said myabe later, I would assume your gay too, or you would have popped him in the mouth. But to say "maybe later, sounds to me your gay to, but he's not your type.
2007-12-22 10:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by chinarain53 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
jus taking a shower with a friend of the same sex doesnt hurt...even if the other is a les/gay...jus take a shower you two dont have to be touching each other...unless the shower cubicle was really tiny
2007-12-22 10:48:19 · answer #4 · answered by greyewolfe 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
O_O
HORRID VISUAL ALERT! D<
Please dont do it!
unless of course yewr both gay!?
im not against gay peoplez but its still a lil creepy D:
2007-12-22 10:45:27 · answer #5 · answered by blackwingedangel9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't lie to him to just put him off. I'd come out and tell him NO, that you're not inclined that way, and that you can still be friends. Just not that intimate. He may think it's OK for friends to be that way because he feels he needs that closeness, but you don't. Tell him you're straight and prefer to stay that way.
2007-12-22 11:10:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
just tell him no, your not comfortable with taking a shower with him.. if that hurts his feelings, tell him he hurt your feelings by asking you to take a shower with him..
2007-12-22 11:09:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you said maybe later, he can assume and so can you that he will ask again, later..lol
Tell him you are not gay and to please not ask you to do that again.. If he can't respect that, then you might want to end the friendship..
2007-12-22 10:44:53 · answer #8 · answered by tiny b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you don't feel comfortable with that situation. He will get the hint.
2007-12-22 10:55:17 · answer #9 · answered by Scooter_The_Squirrels_Wifey 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just say no, I'm not into that, or I'm not comfortable with that.
2007-12-22 10:43:34 · answer #10 · answered by eldots53 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋