He had been hinting around this week that he wanted to sleep at a buddy's house last night. I said I wasn't cool I with it. So he went out last night, never came back home and I called him this morning on his cell to say "Are you alive?" and got all defensive and said he simply never slept, he's been shopping for X-Mas after he went to the bar cause the store are open 24-7. He had told me that today he was going to go shop very early in the morning, but I never thought it would mean he wasn't coming home. I should also note he's never "not" come home before but lately he's been going out a lot. How mad should I be?
2007-12-22 02:21:22 · 25 answers · asked by shortey2424 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like he's looking for more than x-mas presents, and no, this is not ok
2007-12-22 02:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by DJ 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
This is NOT okay.
He's been going out lately and now he didn't come home...and he became defensive with you? My gut feeling just doesn't feel right about this...
Where is his friend's house? I don't know how many women agree with me, but I would have driven my a-s-s over there when my husband didn't come home! Why sit around and wait? Why sit there when you're husband's out doing something you have no idea about?
You also told him you were not cool with him sleeping at his buddy's house, yet he did it anyways....that is a LACK of RESPECT for his wife.
There is a serious problem here....and I think you know what it may be.
I'd either get to the truth of the matter or ask for a divorce. Why would you want to stay married to a man that goes out all the time and doesn't come home?
2007-12-22 11:12:51 · answer #2 · answered by Lovin' Life As Mama & Wife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my honest opinion.. I dont think hes out christmas shopping. If he was hinting around all week about staying at a buddys house then never came home.. chances are, he didnt stay at a his buddys house.. Ask his friend if he was there, look for reciepts in his pockets or car of places that he might have been.. If my husband didnt come home all night I would get the idea that he was with someone else and NOT a buddys house..
2007-12-22 10:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Riggggghhhhhhhht. Sureeeeeeee.
A MAN goes shopping all night for Christmas. HAHAHA
I would be rolling my eyes in the back of my head laughing. Then I'd gather the evidence- because THAT'S not hard to do, if you're a chick. Check receipt times and dates. Call friends he was suppose to be with. Check cell phone history.
He cheated. He has been planning it for a week. I'd own his *** after that.
2007-12-22 10:30:36 · answer #4 · answered by plastic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Erm, is this "buddy" female, by chance? Sounds to me like he's stepping out on you, I'm sorry. Yes, I'm sure he never slept, and yes, he may have spent time at a bar, but there is surely more to this than he is telling you. Especially when he is getting all defensive. If it were me, I'd be collecting evidence. Who gets the cell phone bills?
2007-12-22 10:28:38 · answer #5 · answered by eldots53 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husbands behavior is suspicious.
Suspicious enough to hire a private eye and have him watched.
I hate to rain on your parade, but if he was hinting around at staying with a buddy and he's been staying out late A LOT, then this is looking like your husband is having an affair.
2007-12-22 10:47:06 · answer #6 · answered by Ella 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be ticked. It sounds as if he's finding a reason to not be around you. Usually sudden changes like this could mean that he may be cheating, depressed, or upset with something. Keep in mind it's the holiday that can also put added stress on an individual. Voice your opinion and concern!
2007-12-22 10:38:54 · answer #7 · answered by The Midnight Rider 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ye...i would be mad with him to. you did tell him that you would rather he didn't. You should ring his friend and ask to speak with your hubby. Have u any other reasons to suspect he is up to no good? How long have you been married? I guess your gut feeling is this is out of character for him thats why u posted a question. I think u should do a little bit of ur own investigating first tho, gather the evidence. As women do! Good luck, hope its something that can be resolved.
2007-12-22 10:28:10 · answer #8 · answered by EM J 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't be mad if you are still in love with him keep him because the next man will cheat too or worse. What you need to do is grow up and learn the facts of life:
1. There is no Santa
2. There might be a Bigfoot
3. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
4. Marriage ruins relationships (moving in is the same)
5. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
6. Life is not fair
Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me if you want to
hear the truth. You can ask me anything. I don't lie unlike
the other answers you will get.
2007-12-22 11:05:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I would be suspicious if my husband started behaving this way out of the blue.....I am guessing that he wanted to sleep somewhere else....but most likely it wasn't at a buddy's house....Him becoming defensive is a red flag....If he wasn't hiding anything...then there would be no reason for him to be all hot about you asking if "he was still alive?".....
2007-12-22 10:28:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Very. Its not ok for a married man to not come home especially if they don't call. I think you are wondering if there is another person and I think its a reasonable question that you should investigate more.
2007-12-22 11:17:29 · answer #11 · answered by AMe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋