What would you do if your 15yearold daughter told you she was gay?

Question

Well i'm guessing i'm guna come out 2 her then..
Btw i'm not the mum.. I was jsut havin a clue of what reaction im going to get..

Answer 1

show her love and support....

she's going through a difficult and confusing time in her life. Try your best to be there for her and to support her.

:-)

Answer 2

I would try to be understanding with caution, 15 is early to decide your life course. I also know many gay or lesbian people who say they KNEW before Jr. High. It is not impossible that this particular 15 year old knows her own mind. I would suggest discussing the societal impact of being gay or lesbian and how, in some communities and places, make a person a target. Above all, I would love her, no matter what.

Answer 3

Well, it's a little shocking at first, I know because my son told me he was gay when he was 17.

Other than your own concerns for grandchildren or how society will treat them, their really no different, than before they told you their orientation.

I was honest with him, about how I wasn't comfortable seeing him holding hands or showing affection to another man.

So they toned it way down around me and gave me the time to adjust to the idea. I don't condone the lifestyle, but I accept it as jis choice. He's in his mid twentys now and still with the partner he had in high school.

He does seem to be happy with his partner and thats what really matters. It's his life and if he's fulfilled and happy, thats all that counts.

I have a distant relative, who found out his daughter was a lesbian. He kicked her out of the house and out of his life. How does somebody do that to their own flesh and blood?

Just remember if you respected and loved your daughter before you knew she was a lesbian. She didn't change her charactor when she came out, that part of her won't change.

Be honest with her, but don't judge her. She feels very exposed right now, it's not easy coming forward like she did to you. She's very brave and confident enough in you to tell you like she did.

Give her a hug and talk.

Answer 4

You have the same rights that would have a straight girl according to your mother or father's ideas. If your mother thinks you would be allowed to go out with a boy, be his girlfriend then you would have the same right to do that with a girl if that is what you really want, she must understand that you are an individual, apart from being her daughter of course, what you must stress is that she, he or they must grant you the same rights they would grant you if you were straight, no more no less. Good luck!

Answer 5

Try not to be judge mental. READ as much as you can about it. This is part of being adolescent, being curious and/ or confuse. It might pass and /or go away. You must respect her feelings. She might truthfully be gay and there is nothing that can change that. You must set a rules just like if she was dating in a straight environment. Look for a support group for parents of gay children. They will give you insight of things that you might not be aware of. Be involve in her live and just love,love,love.

Answer 6

Before or after I cried for the daughter I wanted and who had gone?

I hope to God that I would be supportive and not dismissive; but I know that I would secretly pray that she would change her mind.

Life never has been and I suspect never will be easy for people of the Gay Way.

Answer 7

I would love her no matter what.

I would talk to her and let her know that this is not an easy path she is choosing. At 15 it is normal to be attracted to the opposite sex and explain it could just be a faze. Let her know I love her no matter her choices. Also remind her 15 is WAY to young to be having sex. There is SO much more to it than just a good feeling.

Answer 8

Nothing , she 's still my child, no matter what , although then again I'm not a fundamentalist right wing "Christian" either.

My god son came out to his mum and me many years before he told his father , expecting a reaction. His father said to him you're still my son , my love for you hasn't changed with the information you've just given me. People can no more ' choose' their sexual orientation anymore than someone with a congenital disability chooses disability. There is no choice involved it just happens.

Answer 9

i wouldn't care a bit! she obvisiously likes women and not men and everyone has to learn that being a lesbian isn't a lot different from being straight. This would be her desision in life and if she regrets it at the end, its only her fault. Don't be untolerate on these sort of things.

Answer 10

Love her for who she is, and don't make too much of it.
She may be serious, and completely certain of the fact that she is gay.
Or, she may be saying it for shock value.
At that age, people are often still unsure about their sexuality.

Be supportive, and let her know that you love her no matter what. If it's for shock value, she'll see it's not working and drop it. If it's true, she'll be glad to have a loving parent who stands behind her.

Answer 11

I'd tell her to go slow, she's still young, sex is a complicated thing and you don't want to push yourself too fast, gay OR straight.

I'd tell her that whatever she settles on, her mother and I love her and are proud of her.

I'd tell her to be careful about talking about it in public, though, because we live in the U.S. "Bible belt" and there are a lot of bigots around here and a person can't spend ALL their time fighting. We need to pick our battles.

I'd explain to her the difference between being discreet and being in the closet, and tell her about family friend "Uncle" Frank and his ulcer and nervous diseases that I blame on his being in the closet.

I'd ask her to tell me if any of our friends or family give her a hard time, so I know who to avoid or to punch in the mouth.

I'd ask her to have her girlfriend over for dinner, because her mother and I want to be involved in her life.

I'd also start taking her to the firing range for target practice. The Klan and Nazis ain't all dead, unfortunately, and sexual and racial minorities should be able to defend themselves.