I am 24 male African single but am dating a girl i went to see a doctor who did an examination to my spearms and the result is that i can not give birth to any child should i not marry my girlfriend?should i tell her that i can not give her children?
2007-12-22 01:02:54 · 11 answers · asked by Peter O 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You need to be honest about this with your girlfriend before you get serious enough to marry! She has a right to know, especially if she does want to have kids. And just because you can't biologically have your own kids, does not mean you will never have kids. You can always adopt a child in the future :)
2007-12-22 01:11:44 · answer #1 · answered by Erika 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you guys can still have children. get a spern donor. find one that has some things you have. like the same eye color and hair color or same height stuff like that and your girlfriend when she becomes your wife will be insiminated. they'll take her eggs out of her and put the donor sperm on the egg and fertilize it and then they'll put so many back into her and then 2 weeks later she will go for a blood test to see if she is pregnant or not. there is no reason not to marry her. if you love her then you will be fine. sperm dont matter when it comes to parenting, love does. the love you have for your child is even bigger than genetics. it will be your child every way that counts. once you look into its eyes you and her both will be so much in love more than you have ever been before. and there is adoption. domestic and international. either way it will be your child both of you's chid, but dont propose marriage to her until she knows all this and knows your willing to look into other options!!!
god bless you
good luck
jesus loves you
your in my prayers
ps: you will need to talk to your girlfriend about all this, help her to understand that you want a baby with her someday and will do what ever it takes to make that happen, even if it means letting someone else be the sperm donor.
2007-12-22 01:19:17 · answer #2 · answered by BestFriendsForever1988 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what the doc said- you need to be honest about this, especially if you are planning on marrying her- however it is not the end of the world, adoption is a great option. I am adopted and have 2 adopted children. You cannot go into a marriage, with this knowledge and not tell her, because when she finds out that you knew, do you think that is a way to get her to trust you?
2007-12-22 02:10:14 · answer #3 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't get sad!
You are not alone, watch me , I have always dreamed to have a beautiful wife, 1 daughter and 1 son, BUT when I turned 13 I knew i am gay!
And second thing, my cousin's husband have same problem but he got child after 8 years!!
Tell your girlfriend & Yourself that children are not the thing for which we have sex, the important thing is love to keep good relationship!
You can also adopt a child, that would be good thing because you are saving something which had to die if you did,nt adopt it!
Pray to god (If you think there is one) , and visit doctor again and ask him to take your reports again!
God bless you!
We are friends now, Right?
2007-12-22 01:20:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her...... Having a child of your own isnt everything and these days alot of men have low or no sperm count...... there are several alternatives.... If she loves you she will cope with it.... But think about it there are several children out there that need a family to love them and you could always adopt...... Good luck!!
2007-12-22 01:13:12 · answer #5 · answered by mirnmirc 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u need to tell her. dont enter a marriage witholding this from her. having children is a big part of a womens life. does she want kids? u can discuss adoption
2007-12-22 01:18:59 · answer #6 · answered by mommabear 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
um...yes, you need to tell her that you can't. BEFORE you marry her, if you're planning that. it may be a big deal to her. she may need some time to deal with that if she wants kids and she may not be able to continue the relationship but you cannot keep that from her.
2007-12-22 01:11:07 · answer #7 · answered by practicalwizard 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
yes you should be honest with her.
you don't want to deal with the hurt and anger of a woman misled, and by not telling her, you would be ultimately misleading her...should you take your relationship long term.
2007-12-22 01:12:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to discuss this with your partner. There are other options such as in vitro or adoption.
2007-12-22 01:11:09 · answer #9 · answered by Diane M 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you def need to tell her before getting married, she will feel tricked if you marry her then tell her. If she loves you it will not matter.
2007-12-22 01:18:35 · answer #10 · answered by Crystal 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋