in other words when do you call it "break up" or "marriage" and no longer call it boyfriend/girlfriend
2007-12-22 00:22:03 · 22 answers · asked by sexy joker 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
This is just My opinion:
I think it's okay to take your time and all.. but I feel that if after a year or two, if someone doesn't know if he/she has the "One," then I really don't know if they're ready to commit at all with that relatshionship...
When I date someone, it's not for a fling or just to be exicetd over. It takes a while for me to really find someone because I hold love and relationships really high on a pedestool. when I'm with somebody, It's for the long term, not just a "fun time"
I've had 2 relationships:
First lasted 3 1/2 years: he was nice at first, then turned into a major Freak... Mentally/verbally abusive, Cheated several times, Very immature and just a jerk.... I left him because of that, and because he lied to me everytime he said he was going to change and be nicer... He never Proposed and I found out a year later he still hadn't gotten over me and he wished he never made the mistake in thinking that I would ALWAYS be there no matter what..
Second Relationship: over 2 1/2 years, engaged to the man I can see myself raising a family with, and just being together forever. He cherishes me, and has told me that God broke the mold when he made me. He helps to cook and clean too at times(even when I say It's fine and I'll get it) we both know that we're in this together, it's 50/50.
But that's how I am and how I feel. I know that we're all different, so people just have to do what feels best for them ^_^
2007-12-22 02:30:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should date a long time before you even consider marriage. The honeymoon phase of dating lasts the first year and a half if not longer to begin with. You're blinded by how perfect you think your significant other is, everything is wonderful, you have sex all the time, there are no fights, etc etc. There are several steps and phases that happen during relationships. I think you need to get through the first three before you can even seriously consider whether or not you should be marrying the other person. You need to go through phases 1-3, phase 3 being the make or break phase. Where you start seeing your partners flaws, you start arguing, situations arise, and you realize that your significant other isn't perfect. Little things start to bother you, you may get irritated a lot. If a couple can get past phase 3, then they are a strong couple and a marriage will be a successful one. This is why I think 50% of marriages fail. Couples get engaged during the honeymoon phase, and think they've found "their one." When in fact it's just the phase which is perfect for everyone. They get married and only THEN do they start going through the next two phases, and they realize "Woops. We aren't really clicking as a couple, we don't come out stronger after arguments, we're not on a solid foundation, I can't stand you... divorce." I've been with my boyfriend a little over a year now. I'm 26. Most of my friends are engaged, or already married. I'm just not there yet. I do see it as the likely outcome that I will marry this guy, however I think we should be dating another year and a half before that even happens.
2016-04-10 12:42:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 years,
2007-12-22 00:28:05 · answer #3 · answered by poseidon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 Years..
2007-12-22 00:25:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think time determines how much love a person.... Sometimes when you once meet everything is perfect.. so why not marriage?..I think a lot People are afraid of commitment...I also think marriage should be a mutual agreement.. why leave the relationship over paper work..if someone loves you they have to understand that you are not ready.... .. Time does not determine love nor marriage
2007-12-22 00:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 days
2007-12-22 00:24:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
5-7 years?
2007-12-22 00:25:23 · answer #7 · answered by notcha_business09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a simple answer to this. Everyone is different and marriage is a huge step; it's a lifetime commitment and should not be taken lightly. In the end only you can answer that question. What does your heart and mind tell you? Other organs can be misleading.
2007-12-22 00:30:43 · answer #8 · answered by Kevin M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated my girl for 3 years, we were engaged for 2 years, and married for 54 years. I`d say, if you want a marriage that lasts , get to know your partner before you marry.
2007-12-22 00:28:47 · answer #9 · answered by jms043 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends entirely on the people involved. If one really longs for marriage its too long
2007-12-22 00:26:17 · answer #10 · answered by birdie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋