Well it was my birthday yesterday, we had a family party that my mom threw and it was great and everyone had fun! I got some nice stuff and really appreciated all the nice things people gave to me. Eery birthday for my younger cousin I get here something she mentions, or I think she'd really like. She has a summer birthday; ver the summer I bought her this rhinstone olive green hat from this chic boutique called "A Different Twist" ( she mentioned she loved it earlier). I also got her a pound of her fav fudge. Her friends got her some really nice stuff as well and they thanked me. For this birthday my cousin gave me two random books that she already had lying around her room, she said her and her mom just found them and wrapped them (she told me this too). The thing is, for her friends birthdays, her family talks about and always gets them something nice like an arts and crafts thing. But for my birthday, she wraps a book from her room. Is it wrong to be annoyed? Should I let it go?
2007-12-20 23:43:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have been in situations like this before, and i felt annoyed and disappointed as well. I'll explain this short & simple:
I really think you have the right to be annoyed. After the time and money you spent on buying your friend a nice gift she just gives you two old books out of her room.
But then, you should let it go as soon as possible. Because the thought of giving you a present for your birthday is still there. Don't try to end your friendship just because of this.
But, if you REALLY feel annoyed and disappointed, try to talk to her and ask her, "Not to be rude or unappreciative, but what made you decide to give me books for my birthday?'' in a nice and friendly manner.
Hope I Helped! Merry Christmas!
My answer is based on my own Experiences, and this is exactly what i did, and i got an acceptable answer from my friend and we still remained the best of friends. :)
2007-12-21 00:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by jessica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I guess it's never too early to learn the lesson that some people are just more thoughtful than others. Re-gifting is something people are doing more and more but it is terribly rude to tell you in essence, "Here's something that was laying around my room collecting dust. Happy birthday." Perhaps she just doesn't have the money to buy the things that you do. I think for you it's not even about the money it is that you put so much thought into getting the absolutely perfect gift and she doesn't seem to have a clue as to how to do the same for you.
If you generally like her, I would let it go. If you just find her selfish, you can try to distance yourself a bit and not go so far out for her birthdays.
But remember, you give because you genuinely like and care for the person and not for what you anticipate getting in return. I think you know this, just a gentle reminder.
2007-12-20 23:53:41 · answer #2 · answered by CGordo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you must be feeling hurt and annoyed but hey - is your birthday a competition af getting a better gift than your cousin? Of course not. Your mum threw you a great party and you and everyone had a good time - what more do you want? if you ended up with some unwanted books as a gift - so what - just say thanks for the gift and then get over it. Life is way to short to stress about something as minor as what size the gift. So to answer your question - yes, let it go. Sure you can be annoyed, but get over it and don't let it bother you as much as it is. Happy birthday and Merry Christmas!
2007-12-20 23:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by **amber** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the gift that counts it's the thought. We've all heard that phrase, right? Well, she didn't put any thought into it so you have a right to be annoyed. If her and her mom have no money, then let it go. If they have money to buy you a gift like you have done for her then I would give the books back and tell her why you are returning them to her.
2007-12-20 23:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by eightieschic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While it is true that birthdays should be an important ocassion and giivng importance to someone, it can happen that many are not sensitive about gift giving,....just take it as a grain of salt...what can you do anyway.........leave it because the more you focus on it, the more you get sad...........just look at the brighter side of it that now you know them better ok???cheer up and belated happy Birthday dear!!!!
2007-12-20 23:50:15 · answer #5 · answered by E@rthGoddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have a right to be annoyed......the fact that she told you about the books says a lot about her character.
Let it go and have yourself a good laugh at her in-maturity.
I wouldn't put as much thought into her gifts in the future.
Merry Christmas!
2007-12-20 23:50:31 · answer #6 · answered by Teresa S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems she does not value you as much as you value her. If this is the first time she has done this, you could sweep it under the rug for now and see what she does next year. If this becomes or is a pattern then you may need to lower the value of her gifts.
2007-12-20 23:51:06 · answer #7 · answered by jwbovftn9d 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats kind of jacked up. i would have said "hey don't you have these books too?" just kind of in a naive sort of way.l but maybe they forgot your b-day and scrambled at the last minute and are going to get you something extra special for christmas? if christmas you get a bunch of hand me downs too well then you should give the books back to your cousin for her next birthday.
2007-12-20 23:49:31 · answer #8 · answered by na cho baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you have right to be annoyed.
you obviously spent time choosing something you knew she would really like, but getting something that you know they didnt get especially for you doesnt show much thought on their part.
although this is quite harsh, i do think you should let it go and not hold it against her. im sure she'll get you somthing nicer next time, and will put more thought into it.
hope you have a merry xmas.
2007-12-20 23:50:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be annoyed but let it go. maybe do the same thing for her next birthday! haha
for my sixteenth birthday on the 1st, my mom got me a coloring book. things could be worse.
2007-12-20 23:47:36 · answer #10 · answered by Angelacia baybeeeeee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋