when is the best time to tell my fiancee i want her to have my baby?

Question

me and my fiancee have been together 6 years and have been living together sence 2005 i want a baby now and i dont know how to tell her she is really fit and doent want to loose her figure she is always saying that strech marks never go away but has never said she doent want kids how do i approch this?

Answer 1

With her physical fitness and tone, there's a very small chance that she'll get stretchmarks-those who are disciplined in training usually maintain that during there pregnancy and tend to gain less weight. She will be fine in that respect, the only other factor in that is genetics.
Talk to her; you've been together for 6 years-I'm sure that this won't come as a total surprise to her!!! Tell her how you feel and she will only love you more for being so sensitive towards her.
Good luck, something like this is difficult to approach but easy once it's started!

Answer 2

I've been pregnant twice and not suffered from the stretch marks some women do. It doesn't happen to everyone. I'm about 5'8 and normal weight is only about 125 - 140. I just consider that I've been lucky but when I decided to have children I also knew what I was getting myself into and having children (the way they make me feel) far outweigh the risks of what childbearing does to your body. Some stretch marks are even said to reduce after pregnancy as well and I believe that one. I know I used Palmers cream everynight of my pregnancy and it helped too I think.

I think if you want children, you should tell her and be honest. Then ask her how she feels and if she starts talking about her figure you should say that her figure is beautiful to you and nothing would ever change that (given you know you are being honest about that) - do not lie to her whatever you do or later she will hate you for it. Many women are very self conscious of their looks that's why they spend tons of time in front of a mirror everyday trying to look good.

My best advice is that you'd better find out NOW if she wants to have biological children BEFORE you get married to her. If she doesn't give you any answers about it then I'd be wary about getting married to her. My cousin married a woman who decided after getting married she didn't want children because of what it was going to do to her body as well. She's not even that good looking to begin with but to me, I felt she was selfish for depriving him of that right to have kids at all. I mean she NEVER wanted them. Not just "not now". She kept telling him "not now" but she really meant "never". THey are now getting a divorce. I have also been down that road where I was married to someone (for a very short time) who told me before we got married that children was definitely possible. Then after we married he said he didn't want any at all. That sort of thing lingers and hurts.

Good Luck.

Answer 3

Just tell her how you feel. Part of becoming a mother is giving up your body for somebody more important for quite a while. Also tell her she can use bio oil on her tummy while pregnant and it could prevent stretch marks, my sis in law doesnt have any and she didn't put on a whole lot of weight either. Me on the other hand... well thats another story :)

Answer 4

i think you should bring it up in a conversation and discuss when you both think its the right time to have a baby, because you should both agree together, and as for stretch mark, unfortunately a lot of women do get stretch marks and others dont but you can buy certain creams and products that will help and prevent them, good luck in whatever happens

Answer 5

if all shes worried about is stretch marks,, well i think theres alot worse that could happen in someones life,,,,, i am covered in them from my first pregnancy and i have a beautiful 11 and a half month old sleeping in her cot,,,,,so i dont care about my stretch marks!!! And no cream will prevent them, you either have elasticity in your skin or you dont, zinc cream will help fade them, but thats about it. all you can do is tell her, youll never find the right time cause if your nervous about it, youll find excuses, maybe just bring up the conversation while you are laying in bed talking one night,,,,all the best

Answer 6

You need to tell her that you really love her and would love to have children by her, but that you want to be the best father there ever was, and that your children will always have their mother and father living together in a loving home. So in order to do that, you need to set a date, make it legal and make that commitment to the woman that is good enough to have your child, so should be good enough to have your name also.

Answer 7

After you've been married for a year.

Seriously, wait until your marriage has stood the test of at least a year.

My husband and I had been together for over 5 years when we got married and we still waited a year before getting pregnant. That gives you time to settle into married life and check your finances etc. I'm not saying that you HAVE to be married, I'm just saying that since you're already planning to get married it would be a good idea to wait a while.

You could go on and tell her and the two of you start planning to make a baby in a year or so. That gives her time to take care of any health issues etc.

Answer 8

Sit her down and tell her that you love her and you now want to start a family. I mean if she said yes to marrying you, then she wants to spend the rest of her life with you and that means starting a family with you as well. Just talk to her about it, she might suprise you and say YES immediately.

Good luck.

Answer 9

Just tell her - just look her in the eyes and tell her you feel that you are ready to start a family and ask her how she feels about that. Be prepared for that to be just the beginning of a very long conversation though!

Answer 10

okay well tell her how you feel..not all women get stretch marks and she ca work out after and her body will be back to normal after birth!! even if shes not ready she should accept your feelings and talk things through properly xx