i dont have any problem with my hubby bit i like another guy also. my friend is not married and he knows bout me infact he advices me lot of time which makes my marital life improved and always make me positive in all ups and downs in my life. He cares for me. i also care for him and we dont have any intentions to live togrther and he doesnt want ot disturb my marital life eithrt. We enjoy each others company and max we intreract only by phone and hardly meet.
2007-12-20 21:58:28 · 36 answers · asked by toffy2203 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no its wrong, because eventually your going to really fall hard for this other man, and it will mean hurting your husband. eventually all things get found out, and the truth will come out. its hard to hide after awhile. if your happy with your mate, stop what your doing its destructive and u will eventually want to be with this new man and not your husband.
2007-12-20 23:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, how can you have sexual intimacies with a guy who you only talk with on the phone and hardly meet? Do you onlly meet to "hook up"? In any case, it's WRONG to cheat! You say you're happily married...if this is so, then you wouldn't have sexual intimacies with anyone but your husband. I'm sure you wouldn't like it if this question was posted and your husband was asking. He'd wonder what was lacking in your marriage if you always had to go somewhere else for stuff he was giving you. Yeah, your marriage is happy, because you get to avoid your husband nad lavish all your attractions on another man! Limit your interaction with your friend, and start loving your husband.
2007-12-22 08:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats BS they really cant cuz sure you have a lot of guy friends but why do you think they are your "friends" cuz either your HOT or you are a tomboy and like the stuff they do thats it! besides how do relationships (as in sexual ones) and affairs and flings start?? you have to be friends first so dont give me that BS. Now there is an exception to that that is when you go out as a group or coworkers going out as a group but if you have a girl/boyfriend and you "go out" with a "friend" then forget it anything can happen i dont care if you say im not like that or hes not like that BS sooner or later it will turn to more than just a friendship!
2016-04-10 10:58:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are not happily married... If you need to interact with another male, the way you should be acting with your spouse. Does your husband know about this man? How would you act if your husband had the same type of relationship with a female friend. Get a divorce that's what your heart desires anyway.
2007-12-20 22:09:12 · answer #4 · answered by journeeymann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it right. Some people's life may work out that way one partner is not enough for covering and solving all the details of the life. I think you are not alone with this even in your close environment. But people are hypocrites or envying. Everybody solve his/her problem how he/she can. If you are satisfied then that is good for your husband too. Ideally, your husband should be a friend of that man. But what is ideal?
2007-12-20 22:10:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a committed marriage I would say no it is not alright to do this. You should talk with your husband about this and see if there is anything missing in your home life. You may consider seeing if your husband is OK with an open marriage it works for some but be prepared when he starts seeing other women. Good luck!
2007-12-21 02:58:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course NOT! People would somehow understand you if you have been unhappily married. But since you have a happy married life, don't do it. You will just ruin your relationship with your husband and friend. Your friend cares for you but that's just it. Maybe he is just being nice to you and enjoys your company. And has no intention of having sex with you. Be contented and love your family.
2007-12-20 22:08:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How it will be all rite madam? Don't you feel that u r making u'r married life an unhappy one.When u have a loving husband who cares for u and satisfies all your needs, why do u want this extra so seems to be extra happiness for u.
Does u'r friend too have the same mentality? Why can't u be loyal to your husband?
2007-12-23 23:55:37 · answer #8 · answered by S3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...and Yes.
Analogy of the Backpack:
All semester we struggle to keep our backpacks in order. Which books to stuff it with on which day for which class. Which compartment for which paper assignment, and which compartment for supplies, and which compartment for books, and which compartment for flashdrive, gum, snacks, etc. Some peeps have no problem. Supplies (pens, pencils, erasers)in plentiful supply, papers never scrunched up - always smooth and ready to turn in. Etc, etc, etc.
But, somewhere around the middle of finals week it suddenly all no longer matters! It's a sort of freedom...A calm...An ease.
Life is like that.
We each have to decide our own style. Do we choose to complicate our lives with extra-marital affairs, thus "backpacking" our existance? Or, do we live a life of calm, ease, and uncomplicated freedom?
We each only live once. Regret should never be a part of that life. Regret that we messed up a marriage, OR regret we gave up a true love just to keep a marriage intact. Life moments, once passed, are forever gone. What we choose, we must live with til death. And we will die, no doubt.
Personally, I separate physical death from spiritual death. Spiritually, we who are saved will live forever therefore, I live physically in a way that avoids "backpacking" my existence. I ain't going to be struggling with that baggage for my entire spiritual existence. I choose to be spiritually free for all of eternity. I choose to live forever and love for life.
2007-12-20 22:41:22 · answer #9 · answered by Silent Gams 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, it's not alright. I hope your hubby finds out you are cheating and leaves you for a woman who will appreciate him and be faithful. Shame on you for even asking this when you already know in your heart you are wrong for what you are doing. Oh, and newsflash.. You and your "friend" ARE disturbing your marital life.
2007-12-20 22:26:05 · answer #10 · answered by Christine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What will u do if your husband finds out? Will u still stay with your friend or try to keep your husband? You are about to really complicate your life if u go ahead and see this other guy... your gonna end up hurting your husband and yourself when he kicks your a** out and finds someone worthy of his love.
2007-12-20 22:03:35 · answer #11 · answered by yoyo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋