I feel emptyness in my life after the unsuccessful love............How to overcome my emotions?
2007-12-20 19:35:28 · 29 answers · asked by Anjali 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Get busy doin something you love doin, a job, a hobby, volunteer work, anything to keep your mind busy while you get over the person to where you are intereested in another relationship
2007-12-20 19:43:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do things to help you grow as a person. And the best thing you can do to make yourself happy and feel fulfilled is to make others happy. Volunteer. Be a big brother. Whatever. Take a college class. It's ways to get out there, broaden your horizons, remind you that there is still a life to live... and you might just meet someone new to love down the road.
I've been where you are. I thought I would never find love again, but I did. And I've never been so in love before. I never would have believed it. Hang in there.... and try to think positive. You attract what you think about! Have you seen the movie "The Secret"? Another good self-help program is "The Seat of The Soul". I got it on CD's and listened to it in my car on my way to and from work everyday. Very inspirational.
All the best!
2007-12-20 19:55:57 · answer #2 · answered by Adeline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this was a recent event, then your are grieving normally. You have suffered a loss in your life and it is normal to feel sad for a while. One way you can relieve some of the pain is by talking about it or writing it down. Write down some of the stories of your relationship and remember the good times. It will make you feel better and bring closure to your situation. Trying to forget about it as soon as possible won't solve anything and will only stress you more. Everyone is different and some take longer than others to get over a relationship. If it has been long enough and you feel it is not normal because it is getting in the way of your daily functioning then you need to go to the doctor and get a referral to a therapist or psychologist
2007-12-20 19:43:04 · answer #3 · answered by kayakyen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
forget everything for some time... telling very easy but very difficult to forget the true and lost love...
when there is no other alternative than forgetting... and to overcome the present unsuccessful love and emptiness of life and to live for some more year with confidence to face the life.. we have to..
time and change in mind and setting another goal in life is only way to overcome this present problem..
listening music, relaxing ourselves to get some time happy in the life will help to forget the lost love and you may decide more than love some other thing you can do with your knowledge and help children and women or poor or any other activity which you like to do also help you to overcome the emptiness and your emotion
there are many successful people achieved many things after facing this type of situations with strong dedication to do some thing to helpless and unfortunate people and society
2007-12-21 03:26:35 · answer #4 · answered by mega v 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always remember: It takes two to Tango, and best you can do for yourself;
acknowlege loss & grieve - go ahead & cry
Accept your 50% of the relationship failure.
Emotions are real,there is no such thing as overcoming the pure emotions (happy, sad, glad,etc, check out what it is you feel~what you miss,i.e.,companionship,what you depended on)
Accept your emotions with clarity; do you feel responsible for the "unsuccessful"? c larify the 'Emptiness' and determine what you're missing;be specific with yourself.
It's normal to feel a void/empty upon ending a realtionship; quoting the Rolling Stones, 'We All Need Someone We Can Lean On'. Examine your support system; if you discover unmet needs,run with all your might to where you'll feel safe.
2007-12-20 20:11:51 · answer #5 · answered by januarymoon1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my husband died after 28 years of marriage, I thought the world ended. I clung to the fact that many close couples died within a short time of eachother and kept hoping my turn would come soon. But it didn't. Weeks, months, then years, went by and I was still alive, without him.
Then one day (about 2 years after losing him) I suddenly realized that I was actually enjoying life again. I even decided to start dating again (about 5 years after his loss.)
Now (11 years a widow) I have a new boyfriend whom I love dearly. As much as I loved my husband - and I really DID love him A LOT! - I would not trade my present boyfriend for him if I could have him back alive and well today!
I have always tried to tell myself that when i lose something it is to make room for something better, but when I lost my husband, I didn't think that could be possible. Yet it DID happen for me!
If I could recover from the mind-crippling trauma of losing the man I lived with and loved for 28 years, and even end up finding greater happiness, then you can, too.
I know it doesn't seem like it right now, but time WILL heal your wounds and the potential for greater happiness IS "out there" somewhere waiting for you to find.
2007-12-21 06:11:37 · answer #6 · answered by monarch butterfly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Volunteer some time in a homeless shelter. It's amazing how helpful it is to serve others whose lives are worse than your own. You begin to see the bigger picture.
Get out, play some pick up basketball. Anything physical will help by getting you outside the house, doing something in the sun. It also releases endorphins and other brain chemicals that make you feel good.
Go to your friends houses, don't stay home. Take a class at your local community college. Go to seminars. See a movie -comedies, no sad or depressing, or violent movies, though. They could make you feel worse. When you're listening to music, only listen to happy music.
2007-12-20 19:52:37 · answer #7 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are two ways to fill the gap. Try to understand why your previous love failed or was unsuccessful. It is really the foundation which is often ignored. Then try to address those issues and eat, pray and love again. Be sure that you are not the only person on the face of the earth who is unfortunate with love. It happens to most people.
Keep your heart open.
2007-12-20 19:42:57 · answer #8 · answered by Metene 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've had to experience this and it affected my life and decisions for months severely until I figured out that it wasn't the end of the world, it just wasn't what was meant to happen. Now a few years later I'm in love with someone else who is in love with me equally as much as I am with him and we have a beautiful baby boy and I'm the happiest I've been. The point of all this, is just to move on, let destiny do it's thing and until you find the "one" then try to enjoy life and every opportunity that comes across to you. Also, you're a single man now, you can go do some flirting with hott girls lol.
2007-12-20 19:51:56 · answer #9 · answered by Amber E 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are so many other important things in life than love.
Do some thing for needy.
Return to society what you have taken from in some or other form and you will observe that love is too small compare to this.
You will have a different meaning of life.
In no way love can become larger than life.
2007-12-20 22:44:22 · answer #10 · answered by harish555 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend,
It is not at all easy. But if you follow bellow help, I m sure it will help u a lot.
1. Go to your parents, brother and sister and tell them u love them. Express your love.
2. Then try the funda for movie ‘Jab we met’, flush all pics of your Ex.
3. Concentrate more on your future. Study hard if you are studing or work more efficiently if you are in a job.
4. Finally love yourself a lot more you do now.
Try this out and best of luck
2007-12-20 19:52:22 · answer #11 · answered by Pavy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋