other than the risk of getting an std and creating a baby with another person (those are obvious reasons). but other than that why do people get mad about it?
also why arent people supposed to have sex with people other than who they are married to?
or are std's and having children with other people the only two reasons? thanks in advance.
2007-12-20 18:52:04 · 29 answers · asked by this is my avatar 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My first thought to this question is are you really seriously asking this...?
Well when you get married you take a vow to devote yourself to that one person. It has been like that for hundreds of years.
I think people get mad because they are hurt, betrayed and a lot of other feelings.
If you want to have sex with more than one person then do not make a commitment to one person.
2007-12-20 18:57:40 · answer #1 · answered by Jessie 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because whether you are strong or not, sex does have a lot of other implications and negative side effects on any relationship. People tend to think that sex is a quick orgasm and that's all folks,but it is not. The older you get, the more you understand that sex comes as a package with emotions. Believe it or not, some people may fall in love after having sex ( if not you, others do). This will put the whole respectable cherished idea of marriage at a risk. It starts with sex and develops to love then the couple find themselves drifting in different directions.
Put it that way, when you love someone, you can't share them. I don't care how much is the love or understanding.. but it just won't happen.
2007-12-20 19:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by guy_from_there 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think is the physical action of sex that gets people mad when they are cheated on (NOT JUST THE STDS AND THE CREATING A BABY WITH ANOTHER PERSON)... When two people get married you form a certain union or bond with your spouse and its the breach of commitment ,loyalty ,trust and an ever lasting betrayal that transcends into maddens
2007-12-20 19:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope you aren't married, and if not NEVER GET MARRIED!!!
For starters, marriage is a special bond between you and ONE person. Not you and what ever hole you can find.
Vows are not meant to be broken. When you marry ONE person, its for life. Because you LOVE that person and want to spend the rest of your life together. ONLY THE TWO OF YOU. Love is a wonderful thing. You must have never experienced it ever. When you love someone you never want to hurt them. When you love someone deeply enough to get married then that is your way of promising them you will be faithful until death do you part. Saying that you will love them, be with them, and ONLY them forever.
Marriage is a promise made between TWO people.
STDs and making babies isn't what makes cheating wrong. Its the fact that a sacred promise, vow was broken.
Dude, hopefully once your out of high school you will understand. But then again, how many STDs and babies do you have?
Just never get married. If you don't got it by now, you never will.
I suggest for you to marry your hand and a playboy.
2007-12-20 19:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by Squeakers 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have a weird way of looking at life my friend. When you marry your spouse is supposed to be pure for you, so you can raise your children through a specific Gene pool and no others.
If you have a mixed Gene pool you'd never know who's Gare's they have and therefore what the physical problems with entail.
Another aspect is the love of your wife and her loyalty, toward you. This isn't a promiscuous society, like the old Mormons. You may have a different belief like that of "Jamestown": or "The Texas library" etc to name a few. We in our society have accepted our fate and would rather lead our lives this way.
2007-12-20 22:53:34 · answer #5 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is just a guess, but I know that the brain is wired to produce a bond with people you are in long term relationships with. The longer together, the more neural pathways are going to form based on that bond, and the stronger your love will feel. I also think you're going to closely associate social rules you grew up with about relationships to that specific bond. That bond is going to get disrupted if your spouse cheats because it breaks those rules, and that disruption is going to hurt you psychologically.
Also, if someone promised to have only you for their whole life and then break that promise (and it's a big one) it will cause you to lose your trust in that person.
Still, it all depends on what you've decided are the parameters of the relationship. I know people who are polyamorous and seem to be seriously happy with their lives.
2007-12-20 18:59:45 · answer #6 · answered by kashre 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you to decided what is stronger. You physical urges or your emotional and mental strength. The mental and emotional connection you share with someone you marry should be strong enough to be sufficient that you would never need any more from anyone else, or be willing to betray. That's what marriage is. If you're not getting married for that level of connection to someone, you shouldn't be doing it.
Although I get the feeling from how you asked the question, that you have already made up your mind.
2007-12-20 19:01:27 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa O 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Obviously u've never really loved someone, nor devoted your whole life to someone and made them your world. you've never put all your hopes and dreams and wrapped them all up into one person just to wake up one day and realize that you've been nothing but a fool, that u married someone that lied the day they promised in their vows to "FORSAKE" all others, to be devoted to you and only you till death do u part. You've never had to watch ur children cry begging for their parent that isnt there, and knowing theres nothing u can do to make that parent come back. You've never had to try and explain to your child why their parent is kissing someone else. Because if you ever felt the earth shattering pain, the soul breaking pain of someone you loved with all your heart and soul hurt you in that way, u wouldnt find someone cheating on you so trivial.
2007-12-20 19:00:37 · answer #8 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I have question for you. Why get married if you know that you're going to cheat through out the marriage? I hope you have the same attitude when you get married and your wife cheats on you with one of your male friends! ha!
2007-12-21 16:01:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is an exclusive arrangement agreed upon by both partners. Violation of that trust causes great emotional pain. Yeah, I'd be mad!
2007-12-20 18:56:39 · answer #10 · answered by Baloneyus_Monk 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋