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its hard cause i dont wanna spend the night at my dads house. how do i deal?

2007-12-20 18:22:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

7 answers

I am sorry Natalie that this is happening to you and your family. Have your Parents tried counseling ? For yourself, I am sure it is painful, they are both your parents. Are there any Grand Parents of Aunts and Uncles that would be willing to help you get away from the stress, and take you in occasionally Of course there is school and you need to attend and spend time with the Parent that you live with. Spending you time and attention on your classes and your home work, by trying for the best possible grades, would be a good outlet for you. trying to stay out of taking sides in discussions and arguments your Parent's may have would be good, however none of this is easy.Is there any help available at school from a counselor for yourself ? Try explaining to your Dad that it is to stressful for you to stay at his house, perhaps he will understand, and you will be able to do that later when you have adjusted to the separation . Best wishes, and a Merry Christmas.

2007-12-20 18:41:04 · answer #1 · answered by pooterilgatto 7 · 0 0

Sorry that your going through this, my parents are divorced as well. The question u need to ask yourself is why dont u want to go to your dads house? Is he mean to you? Are you just angry with him? Are you uncomfortable there? Do u feel you wouldnt be loyal to your mother by going?

If he's not mean to u, then all i can say is, he's your dad, and no matter whats going on between him and your mother , its just that between them. He needs you now just as much as your mom, he loves you, he's still your father, the only thing thats changed is the place where he lives. I think you should give it a try, and try to learn to cope with the situation the best that you can. Eventually things will fall into place, and get into a routine, and it wont feel so stressful as it does now. But i think u owe it to your father and to yourself to give it a shot at trying because your still a family, just two different houses. Be there for him like you'd want him to be there for you, and remember that no one is perfect, we all make mistakes..and try to forgive him. I think if u can find a way to forgive both of your parents for putting u into this situation, u will find its easier to handle.

Good luck.

2007-12-21 02:31:57 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1 0

Tell him you don't want to stay over. Divorce is a hard thing to work through, but you need to maintain some kind of relationship with your dad if at all possible. It sounds weird and Freudian, but you won't be able to date successfully until you've worked through your issues with your dad. You don't have to learn to like him, but you will have to work something out. Perhaps it'll all work better if you both join some kind of hobby group so you have something in common, that takes place outside either of your homes. Divorced dads have pretty low self esteem, so if you don't show any interest he might give up and go away. Unless he's a complete and utter *astard, you don't want that. If he's acting like a jerk, as they often do, tell him to go and see a councillor. He might need time to get his head screwed back on properly, try not to give up on him.

2007-12-21 03:15:22 · answer #3 · answered by Rosie_0801 6 · 0 0

Ask yourself “why” you don’t want to spend the night at your Dad’s house and talk about it with your Mom or another adult that you trust. When my mother and father divorced, I wanted to stay with her. I was very upset with my Dad at the time and wanted to comfort my Mom. You have to do what you feel is right and try not to worry; everything happens for a reason. Some things are out of our control, even when we grow up. Hope this helps.

2007-12-21 02:47:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

talk with your dad about it... let him know... tell him how you feel...

the truth usually works, hon.

i'm sorry your parents are divorcing. i know it's rough.

i found a couple of websites which are directed at teens about parents' divorce. i hope they help.

2007-12-21 02:36:07 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0 0

u deal the same as u would being told anything that your parents tell you to do.

2007-12-21 02:35:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

As a child (in the legal sense) you pretty much they to do what your parents want, it sucks i know.

2007-12-21 02:25:04 · answer #7 · answered by DREW 1 · 0 0

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