-----If You Were Unmarried And Pregnant Would You Get Married Just Because -----?

Question

I'm just curious to see who thinks you should get married to the guy you got your pregnant? I don't think this should be a reason to get married.

Answer 1

No, I could see getting married for insurance reasons but anymore you get more money from the government if you stay a single mother!!

Answer 2

When I got pregnant my husband and I weren't yet married. We were planning on getting married and I wanted to make sure it was before the baby came. I really wanted us all to have the same last name. I felt and still feel that this is important. i didn't like the idea of having a baby whose last name was different than mine, and I didn't think the baby should get my name and not her dads. My husband and I have a loving wonderful relationship and are now expecting baby number 2. I really don't see the stigma toward single parents that there used to be. think about in the 40's and 50's they had homes for unwed mothers! For me personally, I feel that marriage was right for us, we are happy and have never second guessed our decision. I think every child has the right to have a loving happy home. Whether that is with married parents or unmarried it shouldn't matter. My friend got pregnant and they broke up right after the baby was born. She gave her daughter her boyfriends last name and now she is raising a child that doesn't carry her name. That would really bother me.

Answer 3

It just depends. Like, if I was with a guy that I've been dating for let's say a while now and I got pregnant with his child then there's so many ways you can go about it. If I liked my boyfriend and he liked me back then we would probably work things out to take care of our child since we were the ones held responsible for getting pregnant in the first place so in this case we would get married. But then, if there were to be a couple who by accident got pregnant, the girl didn't like the guy or for whatever reason then it's not worth to get "married" either. The only time you should get married is if you love your boyfriend and he loves you back then that's all that matters.

Answer 4

No I wouldn't get married just because I'm pregnant. The sin had already been committed and rushing into marriage will only make things worse. But I would think If I had sex with that person I must love them alot to do something so sacred with them...And love should be the reason to get married not just for what looks right. Plus everyone will know thats the only reason you married. If you loved that person enough you could wait until after the child is born.

Answer 5

No, I don' think you should get married. I do think you should try hard to make it work and if you feel it, get married when the time is right. You would never want your child to think it is their fault you two got divorced. They would think the only reason you got married was because you were pregnant and not because you loved each other.

Answer 6

No, getting married because you are pregnant is not the answer. It probably wouldn't work out if that's the only reason for a marriage.

Answer 7

I'm with you,definitely not a good reason to get married,just because you're pregnant.

Marriage is supposedly about loving that person...although today it's more like a 3 month thing.

Answer 8

No.
2 parents doesn't mean good parents, nor is it always in the best interest of the children involved.
While I would want to be in a healthy stable relationship with my child's father, if it's not a suitable situation for my kid, then I'll pass.
I've known too many people who've gotten married or stayed together for the "sake" of the child or children, and to be honest, they were usually unhappy and the kids suffered.
So unless you're happy together and you want to have a life together, it's really not worth it and not fair to the child.

Answer 9

This is the absolute WORST choice a woman could make! I've known too many women who've just assumed that if they have a baby with a man, he will eventually marry her. NO. This is the REAL world, and I believe a couple who are in REAL love should have a child if THEY want to.

Answer 10

I agree with you. If you aren't married you likely weren't planning on the pregnancy. No reason to add another unexpected occurrence--marriage, if it wasn't what you were entirely planning for. Wait it out, and if you still want to get married later, do it then. The concept of an "illegitimate child" is entirely outdated and doesn't matter. All that matters to kids is that they have secure homes with people who love them.