what do i do i am 13 and havin a baby by a man that rapped me?

Answer 1

I'm truly sorry for your situation. If you are having the baby that is a very brave thing to do. If you choose to keep the baby and not place it for adoption you'll need to try and see the baby as the good part of you instead of the bad of the father and not " blame " the baby. Please call a rape hot line and talk with someone about what you went through with the rape. I hope you have family to support you during this time.

Answer 2

Since you are only 13 years old, I truly recommend talking to your parents before you make any decision. You definately need to contact the police so they can find and arrest the man that put you through such a horrible experience. I feel so bad for you!

You have a few options:

1. have the baby and keep it, but you'll need a lot of help and support from your parents, so that makes it all the more important to tell them now.

2. have the baby and place it with adoptive parents. This will give you less responsibility in the long run and allow you to finish off your youth without the burder of trying to raise a child at such a young age.

3. have an abortion if its not too far along in your pregnancy. Your parents could help you find a doctor for this if that is your decision.

I'm not trying to sway you any particular way, its a very difficult choice to make, but its only your decision. Weigh your options and determine what is best for you and the child in the long run.

In the event that you know somebody else that ever has this happen, know that some clinics offer the "morning after pill" free of charge, and I'm not positive, but I heard it was something that you can get at a pharmacy now as well.

I wish you the best of luck, and again, I'm so sorry for the trauma you've had to deal with.

Answer 3

Well you have a choice to make. Either you have an abortion, talk to someone about adoption, or you have help raising the baby until you are able to support him/her on your own.
The first thing you need to do is talk to your parents and explain to them exactly what happened. They know you better than we do and can help you decide what is the best thing to do. They may also be willing to help take care of your baby until you are old enough or even raise him until he is an adult.
Be aware that they will probably want to have your attacker arrested. It will be tough to talk about, but it is the right thing to do! If he hurt you, then he might hurt other young women, as well. I'm sure you don't want anyone else to have to suffer as you are suffering.
You are too young to go through this alone. Most adult women feel helpless in this situation. Please allow your parents to be there for you and guide you in your decision. If you decide to keep the baby, or let your parents take care of him, please remember that the child is part of you and that he had no part in your being raped. Don't hold any bad feelings toward the child. He wasn't even conceived when you were hurt and can not be responsible! I know this sounds obvious, but some people hold resentment toward the child.
My heart goes out to you and I know you will be strong enough to get through this!

Answer 4

You say you are having the baby. Perhaps you don't believe in abortion, but remember that it is a legal option that you can consider. Your 13 year old body might not be ready to handle the stress of a full-term pregnancy. If you will carry the baby to term, really consider the option of abortion. MANY couples are craving new babies and will go to great lengths to bring one home. You could turn your bad situation into a great one by producing a healthy baby and making sure it has a healthy home. Then you can go on to do things 13 year olds should be doing--not raising a baby. Good luck.

Answer 5

If you are not kiddin' then Call the Police, tell your parents, then try to find the man.

and If you don't want the baby do an abortion by going to hospital and asking an Obgyn.

Or you can wait 9 months and put the baby for adoption.

Answer 6

You have to talk to someone. Maybe your parents or some one you trust or even a school teacher. You need to deal with this immediatly. I dont believe in abortions but in your situation, its different. You need to consider what you really want to do. I mean do you really want to bring this child into the world? Everytime you look at it, its going to remind you of what happened. I feel really sorry for you, you poor thing not only getting raped but also getting pregnant. I cant imagine what you are going thru. Just tell someone ok

Answer 7

Personally, I would chose to terminate the pregnancy. But that's me. You are young, but you're old enough to know yourself and what you want and do not want. If providing and caring for a child is not sometihng you want, abortion or adoption are two alternatives. You should not have to live with the actions that some perverted man did to you.

Answer 8

Hi, just in my opinion, religously, abortion is wrong, but truly, think about this point, do you want to punish the child for what that jerk of a man did? the child could be the greatest thing you will ever experience, i know this is hard to think of now, but i wouldnt rush your decision, i ill never agree with abortion, but if you decide to, as long as you know you can live with yourself for the rest of your life with that on your mind, than its okay for you i suppose. i know how you feel, not wit the preg, but the rape. my step father was creepy around me for years, and i still dont know this for sur, but a lot of mornings oi awoke feling like id been drugged not knowing what happned the night before and sex didnt hurt for me at all my first time with a boy and it felt like id done it before, and i know this for a fact, he was videotaping me in all the rooms of the house...so i know how you feel hun, i hope you will be alright.

Answer 9

Why would you keep the baby?

Babies need to come from love, not from rape. I would abort and never feel bad about it.


Bring on the thumbs down you pro-lifers.

Rape of a child is never a situation where the child should keep the baby.

Answer 10

First calm down and just relax. Its gonna be hard for you to decide anyting if your worked up. Report it to the police and tell your parents they can helpt. If you wanna keep it then keep it but dont get rid of it unless you want to. Do what your heart tells you cuz that will never let you down. Good luck and stay strong I'll pray for you.