well let me start when all of this happened.ok well when i was in 6th grade i got picked on alot so my mom toke me out of public school and home schooled me. but that was bad. all my friends stopped talking to me, no calls no emails no nothing. well after a half of a year of home schooling my mom put me into private school. now i have friends there and stuff like that. but everyday im there all the girls are always saying i will call you tonight k? or like we should so do that. But not once has any of my friends ever called me,invited me over,nothing at all. and it makes me so sad cause im nice to everyone and no one cant even invite me over!!!!!!! i just dont get it!!!!!!! SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME WHAT IM DOING WRONG!!!!!! I just want some nice friends. oh and im a girl and 13.
2007-12-20 17:05:19 · 22 answers · asked by Cha Cha! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
and i have invited them over they didn't say anything.
2007-12-20 17:09:18 · update #1
Listen to yourself, you're sitting around waiting for someone to call you. It works both ways, you're not calling them either. It sounds like they like you, but being 13 year old girls, they dont want to make that first awkward phone call. Do it up.
2007-12-20 17:08:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you are doing nothing wrong. The first thing you need to do is have a sleep over at your home. Make sure you have great movies and plenty of junk food for all. Listen to music and have the time of your life. The first time you have people over will seem scary. Have your mom to help you plan it, have your friends to have input also. Start small only invite a couple girls, so you can control the atmosphere. When you go back to school get with your friends and tell them you are thinking about having a sleep over and what would they like to do? Once they tell you what they like, tell your mom and plan accordingly. Once they stay at your house they will feel comfortable inviting you to theirs! Good luck
2007-12-20 17:15:10 · answer #2 · answered by lekeshia s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, my experience with private schools has been they are full of assholes. Its hard to give advice on this without knowing more specifics of the situations, but either they are extremely fake and not worth having as friends, or maybe you need to take the initiative more in developing a friendship with them. Have you ever called them, or invited them over your house or out to do something? also, how long has this been going on? If you just started going to school there, you might need to be patient and wait a little longer for a good friendship to bloom.
It sounds like so far this school is going better for you than other experiences, so keep your chin up. Middle school is rough, but it will be over soon.
2007-12-20 17:20:19 · answer #3 · answered by Lily 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there. Here are some advise.
1. Why would you be upset?
2.Do you think it's important to invite them over?
3.You want to be accepted or to be invited over?
4. Why do you think that you should be invited?
5.Are you looking for a return for the good you've done unto others?
Dear, life is not as simple as when you do good to others, they will do so to you. But never blame yourself when they don't care about you, at least you've made something out of yourself... Keep on and merry Christmas.
2007-12-20 17:18:41 · answer #4 · answered by SASA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't give up!i am a 17 year old boy who is homeschooled and has gone and is kinda still going through what you are experiencing now.when i mean kinda i have just made some friends recently and we have hung out several times.with one kid i have hung out several times now,but with my other friend only once.i mean he is now going to a different job so now we don't see each other very much.and so i am trying to find time to hang out with both of them.
i have been friendless for almost 4 1/2 years now due to mostly living with college students and then my family didn't have time for sports or anything so it was hard for me to make friends.now that i am working i have made several friends.it was hard for me in the beginning because i am a very shy person,but eventually i started working with them and getting rides home with them that one day i asked if they wanted to hang out.this will always be the hardest part because you always want the other person to ask you.
it sounds like you should probably invite them over,instead of waiting for them to invite you over.you should also try calling them instead of waiting for them to call.start small and work your way up.invite them over for a few hours (and i am a boy so i don't know what girls do to hang out,it different for guys because most of us like sports and video games) and watch a movie.ask your parents to take you and your friends to an arcade or something fun.since you are 13 i doubt either you or your friends can drive (i don't know where you live so i can't ell you the laws in your state) try walking to fun local places if you can.
the most important thing is don't give up,if you try your hardest and it still doesn't click between you and these other girls then then you might want to try to make some other friends.hope this has helped.best of luck!
-Blackhawk
p.s. if you want you can email me if you want to talk more this subject.
2007-12-20 18:00:49 · answer #5 · answered by California resident 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, get over it. How about you call them? Or even go hang out somewhere and meet some new people. Sorry to tell you this but part of middle school and high school is developing a thick skin for the real world.
2007-12-20 17:08:44 · answer #6 · answered by Wondering Wildly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you a Stroy... their once was a boy. who was really shy, but not to talk to people. he was scard theyed make fun of him, you see this boy had a speach problem, they held that agisnt him. his family home schooled him all the way till 11th grade, he went back to High school and the kids always started fights with him and made fun of him called him gay n everything all because of a simple speach problem, Well now that boy is 20 years old, and dosnt give a dang what other think of him, he's open minded and and speaks his mind, he over came the speach problem and moved on with his life, He will always have those pricks who will tese and pick but he will no longer let them hurt him,
If you need to talk to some one about your problem you can Email me,
2007-12-20 17:14:15 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter how old you are. You need to realize first of all those are not true friends so why would you want to associate yourself with them. If they can't appreciate who you are and how you are; you can do bad all by yourself. In a long run they will never have your back. They will talk about you and misuse you. Don't rush bringing the wrong people in your life. God has a plan and it doesn't include them.
2007-12-20 17:09:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call THEM. Invite them over. You have to make an effort too. Be the girl that's inviting people over and planning the hang outs!
2007-12-20 17:08:05 · answer #9 · answered by a.lane 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
heyya girly ur doing nothing worng. All u needa do is to be patient. I was in ur position once when i changed schools. I knew no1 there exceot one person, but since i wasn;t shy i tried tlkaing to pplz in my class...and this all happend in 6th grade. Now i am in 8th grade and i have loads of friends. All u needa do is jsut be outgoing and get in the conversation. Heya heres my email address, rbbasketballlover@gmail.com.....theres 3 l's...haha jsut saying..
2007-12-20 17:50:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋