I don't know how to say it but here it goes . My best friend (will call her jane) in the entire world get alone better than my own sisters she's practicaly my twin. Now theres another best friend of hers (will call her mary). It nevered bothered me before untill this year. It feels like she is hording on to my territory. I just want grab jane by the arm and say to mary "shes mine back off"! I know people can have more than one best friend but this is different . Plus mary and jane get to hang out more cuz they have classes together and i barely see jane anymore except when we plan things and in between the halls at school. Then this whole thing with going to different colleges. Mary and jane saying that there going to be roomates and all this stuff. Mary saying that she going to name her frist girl after jane. i think thats going to a lil to far now. Mary also gave jane a necklace that says bff ( so 6th grade by the way) so yeah there it is i feel better now any advice?
2007-12-20 17:02:52 · 6 answers · asked by Jane M 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
dont overthink it. u can have more than one best friend. time change and so do people. its time to make new frineds. well truely everyday is but u need to branch out and make more friend if u rely on just one person they r more likey to hurt. the only thing that wont hurt u if u rely on it is God because he is perfect. people are no where close to perfect we couldnt follow Gods rule so Jesus died on the cross to whip away all of our sins so we could be perfect enough to b with God if we believe in Jesus. So make new friends but dont rely on people for everything life isnt easy there are ups and downs and it will get rough but everything will work out. trust me it may take a long time but it will, have faith.
2007-12-20 17:13:07 · answer #1 · answered by Mae-Day 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
These things happen and it doesn't mean that "Jane" doesn't like you anymore. Friendships go through changes as circumstances change. It's just like if your best friend moved to another state. You might talk on the phone all of the time for a while but pretty soon she would make other friends and you would be spending more of the time you used to spend with her with people that you didn't used to spend a lot of time with.
You need to find a new "best" friend, realizing that friendships rarely last for a life time. That doesn't mean that you hold a grudge against "Jane" or "Mary". It just means that you adapt to changing circumstances as you grow up and realize that this won't be the last time that you are going to go through changes that require you to "make" changes.
2007-12-20 21:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by Martin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, to be honest, I've had a best friend for over 25 years, and used to be really jealous of other people who horded in .....I always felt I had to compete with the "others", and was always fearful I'd lose her.....but, as the years passed, I realized that once you have a special bond with someone, it doesn't change...it only grows....no matter what....so, try not to be threatened....and maybe tell Jane how you feel, and I'm sure she'll laugh and say you have nothing to worry about :)
2007-12-20 17:24:20 · answer #3 · answered by nemofish 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain. I have been through that and now as a mother I watch my daughter go through things like that as well. The only thing that I can tell you is that as you grow and mature you will change -- your interests, likes, and dislikes. At the same time, your friends are changing as well. You will find that the friends you had earlier in life are no longer compatible with the person you are becoming. There are some people we shed like snake skin in order to make room for new people in our lives who are like-minded with the person you are growing into.
2007-12-20 17:21:39 · answer #4 · answered by rejoicehomeschool 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel. I went through the same thing with my best friend 10 years ago in high school. Tell your friend how you feel. I did. I won! She's still MY best friend and now our 7 year old boys are best friends too!!!
2007-12-20 17:21:49 · answer #5 · answered by lvjaycie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, don't undermine yourself thinking that you're not good enough for her. Just be yourself and you'll find more special friends that you can ever imagine. Merry Christmas.
2007-12-20 17:20:34 · answer #6 · answered by SASA 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋