a friend of mine died recently of leukemia. he was 14 yrs old. all of my friends at school wont stop crying and it kills me to watch them there miserable. what can i do to help them deal with the death of my friend?
2007-12-20 16:37:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
This is a tough-one, and probably no one right answer, maybe just one that fits your personality:
For me, I would make myself available, but try to retain the discernment when I'm going down with the ship as well.
Try not to give advice you personally don't believe in. Including this whole-answer if that's how you feel....
Trust your gut, and me personally try to allow the grieving person to come to me first, before I initiate(ideally 80% of the time, but you need to feel this out for yourself), and sometimes you do want to initiate and check-in....
Extreme cases: Delegate to trusted-professionals, even if they hate you for breaking Confidentiality, there life is more important then them likeing you, Correct??
Consult people you admire and look up to, for wisdom, lightheartedness, and general advice...sometimes this may be one person, or two or more.
Hopefully, if you don't choose this answer, others will choose to better it, for ultimately it should be about You, should it not??
Good luck my friend, what your doing is admirable, and strong, and I believe you are a true-leader among your peers, by asking such a genuine question...
-sophiaseeker-
2007-12-20 16:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by SophiaSeeker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for them! Everyone grieves in different ways and it takes some longer than others. Be a good listener when they want to talk about him. Time will eventually ease the pain. Let them know it's OK to mourn him but try to remember the good times you had with him and know he'll always be in your heart.
2007-12-20 16:43:44 · answer #2 · answered by carydee1026 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get together and talk about his life. A friend of mine died recently and we have been making it a point for those of us who were close to her, to stay in touch and do things as a group.
My friend often wore tie dye shirts and at her funeral most of us wore tie dye shirts... were planing to get together on her first anniversary and make tie dye shirts together.
It's been about a month since our friend passed and we get together about once a week and have dinner or meet for coffee. Last time we got together we exchanged photos we had of our friend.
2007-12-20 16:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well... my brother passed away this year and everyone came up and asked me if I was okay. Don't do that at all!! The last thing someone wants is to be reminded about how crappy they feel. If you want to help you should just hang out with them and try and cheer them up. Take them to a movie or just go to their house and hang out
2007-12-20 16:45:42 · answer #4 · answered by Follow-the-narrow-gate 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm sooo sorry :(
time will go on. and they will learn to except that what happend had to happen. my cat died dn i was miserable for a month and thought i would never ever ever get better. but i did. but for a close friend it might take a while longer. bt things will get better.
it just takes time.
2007-12-20 16:41:14 · answer #5 · answered by :| 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could suggest to them to get grief counseling.
You could also talk to your school counselor and he/she could bring in a grief counselor for those who could use the services.
As for yourself you can join the group with the grief counselor. You can give your friends the support they need right now.
However, don't forget about your self. Don't every loose that.
You are a caring and supportive person.
2007-12-20 17:10:06 · answer #6 · answered by Eagles Fly 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be there for them, even though it is hard and scary to see friends cry, they need someone strong to hug them and tell them that they can squeeze you as tightly as they need to to feel better.
2007-12-20 16:45:26 · answer #7 · answered by Terra L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋