I have never thought of myself as a lesbian but there is a woman I work with that i find myself attracted to not so much sexually as more like a companion. I have had thoughts of hugging and kissing her but nothing more. She just always makes me happy i find myself getting giddy when i know i will see her. I know she is not gay and no one in my life would approve of these feelings at all. I have two kids and have been with the same guy for 9 years. Im just really confused and dont know what is wrong with me. I should note that she is also 14 years older than I am but we are both grown adults. Please help me.
2007-12-20 16:02:31 · 17 answers · asked by monkey spunk 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think it's wonderful you've found someone in your life makes you feel good on the inside. It's also great because it's something to look forward to at work each day aside from the everyday grind. Are you a lesbian, maybe, maybe not, why should you need a label? I believe that it's whats in the heart that matters most, the gender of a person should not be the primary issue. Perhaps there is something lacking in your relationship at home and this work friend fills the gap. You are both mature adults and therefore the age gap shouldn't be a major concern. You can try telling her you had a dream about her and it was a bit on the sexual side- see how she reacts to it. Or, just continue to keep the fuzzy feelings and accept that you are only who you are, be it straight, bi, lesbian etc.
2007-12-20 16:43:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone gets curious at some point, and this just may be your time. The fact that this girl makes you happy may be the reason you're having these feelings. Is your husband/boyfriend not spending as much time with you as this woman? Or is there something this woman is giving you that your husband/boyfriend isn't? That may be the reason why you're attracted to her. If you still have feelings for your husband/boyfriend, then you are not a lesbian, because lesbians have no feelings or attractions to men. You may be bisexual if you feel this way about several women. Give it time, and these feelings may pass. Also, there is nothing wrong with you.
2007-12-21 00:11:53 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal Rayne 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's too soon to tell...If you find sometime that she makes you seem happy and complete but your husband doesn't do it for you, then yes, you're a lesbian....It just sounds too early to tell.
2007-12-21 00:24:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's a nonsexual crush, but i don't think you've given us enough information. ask yourself, would you rather talk to this person on the phone or take a shower with them? how would you feel about seeing them naked?
2007-12-21 00:11:01 · answer #4 · answered by sophomrecritic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try purchasing a week-old sardine; cut it down the middle, and then lick the innards. If this makes you wet, you are a lez.
I may as well take the points RIGHT now...
2007-12-21 00:09:24 · answer #5 · answered by Brett N 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I don't think you are. You are just creating a bond called ''friendship''. That should be Normal.
2007-12-21 00:06:41 · answer #6 · answered by curt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are ok. I'm straight, but I sometime have thoughts about men sucking my C@ck. I dont know why I hate men, I really do in this case.
2007-12-21 00:06:36 · answer #7 · answered by SkillQuest 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like a girl crush=) I don't think you are a lesbian.
2007-12-21 00:05:49 · answer #8 · answered by paganmom 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
First...there is nothing wrong with you...
You are having fantasies...and fantasies are healthy.....
It's when fantasies become reality is the key...
2007-12-21 00:11:00 · answer #9 · answered by Wayne 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you aren't sexually attracted to her and u never have been attracted to other women then i would say you are not a lesbian.
2007-12-21 00:06:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋