My bf is home from college and his mom and I have had some differences. Some of her concerns were fair enough. I met her for lunch (I didn't let her pay just to be a witch about it) and we talked and things went ok and now she feels much better.
It's not like she is a horrible person. But I just feel so awkward and uncomfortable with her still.
What can I do? :(
2007-12-20 15:52:04 · 7 answers · asked by ♥ ~Sigy the Arctic Kitty~♥ 7 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Sharan A thank you but the lunch was a one-off thing to talk stuff out.
And I don't want to upset my bf and I don't think she does either so that's why we were polite to each other.
2007-12-20 16:05:56 · update #1
TERA that is scary. Yes he lost his mind and wishes he could marry me! I think she knows that too.
lol but I'm nervous for real if you know what I mean?
2007-12-20 16:08:58 · update #2
Do you think she really feels better? Or do you sense something is still yet unresolved? If things are better, you should be able to relax a bit. But as you know, we women have an excellent intuitive sense...if something is still troubling you, there may be a reason for it. Tread carefully. Go ahead and spend more time around her. It may be awkward, and it may feel that way for awhile..but the best way to get through this is to really get to know one another. Time will tell if things really are better between you. You had a rocky start, but that doesn't necessarily mean it'll always be that way. You're a wonderful person, and a really intelligent girl. Give her some time to let this sink in. And after spending a bit more time together, if you still feel uncomfortable, maybe you could talk to her about it.
Good luck!
(Why are mother-in-laws so difficult? lol! They didn't get this reputation for no reason. Rest assured, many are experiencing similar difficulties. It's not often easy trying to win them over.) I know, you're not married yet, but chances are, you're both sizing each other up because you both sense that this relationship you have with her son may lead to marriage.
2007-12-20 16:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by It's Ms. Fusion if you're Nasty! 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Aww sigi - I haven't read all your former questions about this (just woke up) so I don't know the full story here... But I'll say this much.
In-Laws (or as I prefer to call my ex's, the outlaws) can be intensely destructive to a relationship, especially if their child is unwilling to see the damages they purposely inflict.
I won't bore you with details (but I assure you - had I pressed charges, the mother outlaw should be facing jail times for what she did), but I would seriously recommend keeping a big distance from them.
I even asked my ex-wife to name one good deed her so-called mother had done for our marriage. To this day, she cannot name ONE single good deed... not one.
2007-12-21 00:29:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Play it out ,limit your interaction with her,and be as nice as you can till he goes back to school. After he is back in school you can work out what is best for you. Having a mother in law that is ,not very caring about you came have a great effect on any relationship, I had one of those for 20 years, until we finally divorced.
2007-12-21 02:28:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's the in-law and you two will have your differences.No matter what happen,always be the better women.Some of them just can't wait for you to messed up so they can tell their son "I TOLD YOU SO".
It's natural that you're feeling uncomfortable around her.Be yourself,she should accept you for who you are not what she want you to be (the ideal woman in her image that is fit for her son)
2007-12-20 17:49:11 · answer #4 · answered by Babygirl S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your man's mother is a reality in his life and, therefore, your relationship. You can't do anything to change that or her. If she doesn't like you for any reason, nothing you will do will change that opinion. You need to understand that, accept it and move on. Be overly nice at all times and don't make waves. And, most certainly, don't bad mouth her to him or expect him to take sides - there is no winner in that situation...
2007-12-21 00:45:59 · answer #5 · answered by Super Ruper 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once she gets to know you better she will realize how blessed both her and her son are to have you in their lives. It takes some people a while to warm up to others. I know that I can be very shy as well and although I will talk to people it takes a while for them to win me over.
2007-12-22 03:27:54 · answer #6 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would limit my ineraction with her. I wouldn't do one on one lunch dates and I would share my concerns with bf if you felt that he was impartial to the situation.
2007-12-20 15:59:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋