find happiness with someone he feels he can trust. He works offshore and he doesn't trust me. He brought so much drama and I tried to be patient and understanding, but he didn't give me that same respect in return. During our 2 year relationship a woman showed up from his past with kids and he took he a DNA test and the teens are his. I was still there but he still says he doesn't trust me. I've always been emotionally financially supportive when he need me. I'm tired of his drama, and now I want to stay single. It is so peaceful being single. I don't have to worry about him standing me up, or telling me I'm full of **** when his bi polar disorder kicks in. I feel liberated any other women have similar experiences?
2007-12-20 15:36:54 · 10 answers · asked by hanna 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Big red flag: if you feel more at peace and relieved now that you are separated, trust me: you did the right thing. A relationship shouldn't have to be a heavy burden on one person. If it is, it's not a healthy relationship. And yes, I've had a similar experience...but it took me 15 YEARS to get out of it. And once I did, lo and behold, my anxiety attacks went away permanently, my depression cleared, and I felt more at peace. It's amazing how fast your strength will come back to you once you take that initial (and hardest) step: getting out of the relationship. Sometimes being with someone who is abusive (emotionally, psychologically, physically...) can make you mentally ill as well. It sounds like you got out before it got to that point...and I am happy for you.
Good luck to you!
2007-12-20 17:22:43 · answer #1 · answered by It's Ms. Fusion if you're Nasty! 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The only similarity between my experience and yours is that we both want to stay single; I never had a drama-filled relationship with an unstable guy. But good for you. Liberation is the best feeling in the world.
2007-12-20 16:28:55 · answer #2 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep. Played that game for 6 years. It doesn't change. Smart move getting out now. Usually the ones that can't trust you are the ones doing things that you shouldn't trust (i.e. if he is constantly accusing you of cheating and you aren't, he's probably cheating on you). You'll be much happier without the drama.
2007-12-20 15:52:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How have you ever post with this for 2.5 yrs? i'd have walked the 2nd he pronounced he thinks of alternative women jointly as having intercourse with me., nicely you, lol. this would harm slightly, whether it seems such as you're extra advantageous than no longer something to him. Gosh that even harm to declare that to you, yet i myself do no longer think of it somewhat is your soul mate by ability of any ability. He does not even admire you if he can say he thinks of others jointly as with you. It additionally feels like his heart continues to be together with his X or why would he cry lots through fact she became into dumped. i think of he cried through fact he knows she would be in a position to no longer take him decrease back. you quite deserve extra advantageous, one which will merely think of of you, honor you, love you. good luck and Merry Christmas
2016-10-09 00:48:29 · answer #4 · answered by freitas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're finally sticking up for yourself and that is a very good thing. He may have been feeling guilty about something he was doing so he projected it onto you. Good for you for taking care of yourself.
2007-12-20 15:56:57 · answer #5 · answered by gogogadgetlonglegs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sounds like you made the right choice. There are plenty of non-abusive fish in the sea.
2007-12-20 15:45:33 · answer #6 · answered by Priscilla B 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
...and the point you are trying to make is? You are the one who has finally regained her freedom and self respect, right? This might come as something of a shock to you, but we men also go through the same things when we get struck in a bad relationship. My advice to you is to get out there and re-acquire your personal space and lifestyle.
2007-12-20 15:46:32 · answer #7 · answered by Ashleigh 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Dramatic relationships are never healthy. Take care of yourself (and your money) and find higher ground.
2007-12-20 16:56:38 · answer #8 · answered by WordsWorth_01 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i havent had a similar experience, but im smart enough to know you did the right thing. that guy sounds weird.
2007-12-20 15:44:58 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley M 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
for what it's worth, you did the right thing.
2007-12-20 15:41:09 · answer #10 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋