I have met several men via the internet and carried on cybersex relationships that I plan to break off as soon as my husband returns. Am I being unfaithful??
2007-12-20 14:09:03 · 28 answers · asked by kirlael 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, I don't think so. Cheating is still: PHYSICALLY having one mate at home while going out to PHYSICALLY bang another without the first one knowing anything about it.
It's a PHYSICAL thing folks, none of this bloody psycho-babble that Dr. Phil and his ilk dream up to make women paranoid!
All of this "emotional cheating" and cyber stuff, it's all modern day psycho-babble just meant to mess people up even more.
If your husband is away for so long, maybe that's something you have to address first rather than worrying about something so picayune as this.
After all, if he was THERE for you, you wouldn't have to resort to anything else for your natural needs, right!
2007-12-20 14:22:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Jennifer just by reading some of the answers your getting I can tell people don't understand, he is using sites that encourage cheating. They are helping to destroy marriages I caught my hubby on one of these sites and he lied to me I had no idea what it was he told me it was a site where you could plan getaways for couples. Yeah I guess you could say that a married man can get off or away with another woman!! I F^CKIN went off on his A$$, people on here are making you feel like you don't give him enough at home that is not true HE IS OBSESSED with this secret type of lustful behavior. I think curiosity with porn is natural but when you tell your wife your obsessed with sites where you can actually meet and have sex with other people willing to cheat as well something is wrong. He needs to get some professional help. This is about him not you unfortunately your married to him so it becomes your problem as well. Look into some counseling if he is unwilling to go and try you may have no choice but to leave...
2016-05-25 06:09:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure exactly what to tell you , but I will share something with you. It sounds like you are lonely, which can make for "real" cheating. Because if you were just sexually frustrated, you could take care of that yourself. You are missing the attention from a man, totally understandable..your only human. As far as whether you are cheating or not, that is hard to say. Only you know this. Good luck to you.
2007-12-20 14:31:24 · answer #3 · answered by Lovin' Life 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it is cheating!! But it is not as bad as going out and doing it, but yes it is cheating. I do agree if you could not openly do it wilth the husband deside you it is not right kind of talk/relationship to have and it is wrong! There are other ways to not be lonely when your husband is away without going out of your marriage cyber or phone wise or even person wise
2007-12-20 14:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by Danielle 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are. I think of fidelity as involving someone other than your spouse in your sexual and romantic life, and this is what you are doing. The kinds of affairs you are having seem to me to be not about the sex as much as they are about having someone to interact with. Otherwise you would just take care of your needs in the quiet of your bedroom, if you know what I mean.
It is a lot better than having an actual affair, though.
Sorry I don't have any anwers. Please don't let my words make you feel bad. I am not judging you. I am merely sharing my insight, and I hope it is of some use to you. Good luck.
2007-12-20 14:16:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is, but i know how you feel, and how did you last so long my husband then boyfriend was away for 14 months I hooked up with this guy that i already knew after a few months my boyfriend left and we stopped a few months before he came back home, never told him and he never found out. so I would say go ahead and satisfy yourself
2007-12-20 14:19:28 · answer #6 · answered by thegirl 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you have lust in your heart for any kind of sex with other men then yes it's the same as cheating!.
2007-12-20 19:52:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer to your question. But just in case the answer is YES
2007-12-20 14:41:10 · answer #8 · answered by Prison Lt. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please dont tell me that he is deployed in the military? This is what a husband does not want to come home and find out. You did say "for better or worse", right? Not, "Im going to run when it gets worse".
2007-12-20 18:24:20 · answer #9 · answered by pumper 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
affairs from the internet arent worth throwing ur marriage away....why dun u use ur time in other ways...stop thinking about being lonely, write ur husband a love letter...or something....
2007-12-20 14:16:53 · answer #10 · answered by Sony 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋