If I put my daughter down, she screams everytime and wont stop. If I hold her, she stops. She is 2 months. All her docs say it is colic, but one says sounds like she has separation anxiety. Any tips how to break this? She does not have reflux and I have tried all the swings and sligs and carriers and wraps.
2007-12-20 14:01:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Thank you all so much! And yes, I have tried it all. She stops crying the INSTANT I pick her up. We kinda kidded one time and I picked her up...crying stopped as I was picking her up..instantly tried to put her down and on the way down to bouncer she started crying. Did that a couple of times and it was so funny how she cried, stopped, cried, stopped. And no one can hold her but me. If anyone, even husband tries, even if I leave room, she is screaming! Well, guess my house will stay dirty, she will continue showers with me and I will never pee alone again..lol
2007-12-20 14:24:06 · update #1
yes, as I said, tried all those swings, slings, wraps..all of it, she hates them
2007-12-20 16:25:34 · update #2
Oh good lord! Of course she's not spoiled...!
That's a myth, that babies can be "spoiled," in that sense. Keep on with the cuddles!
edit (having read your other follow-up q...) -- have you tried bringing her in a shower or bath?
My daughter has never bathed alone in a baby bath; she's always been in a tub with me or a shower with Daddy, and has NEVER EVER done anything but enjoy the water.
She's a lovely baby nowadays, but I do regret that when she was younger and fussier we didn't just spend more time in the shower or tub with her. We should've just hung around in the water with her until we drained the hot water tank every night. It was a really nice time (er, in retrospect).
When you pick her up and she stops crying -- take that to heart. I think cuddling a baby is a pleasure no matter what the hour of day. It's a real luxury, being able to stop the cries of somebody you love so much.
2007-12-20 14:07:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
As everyone above me has said you can't spoil a newborn. My first daughter was exactly like this and I went on to have 2 more so don't worry it does get better! She would not go to anyone but me and now she is the most independent, self confident 5 year old I know. The thing I know now that I wish I knew then was babywearing...go out and get yourself a wrap or a sling and you will be amazed. They are the best, you're still holding your little one but you've got 2 hands to get things done again and even better is baby usually passes out within a couple of minutes. Good luck!!
2007-12-20 23:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by dolfin426 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you breastfeed, it could be because of the dairy that you eat. The lactation consultant at my hospital said that the long protien in dairy foods that we eat is too hard for some babies to digest and that it can cause them to have belly aches, thus crying. Colic isn't crying at random times, i.e when you put her down, ect. it is usually at the same time during the day and for about the same length of time. My son had colic for about 6 weeks. He would start to cry about 6 pm every day and would stop around 11pm. YOu could almost set the clock by him. Then, he just stopped. I breastfed him and MAN I wish that someone would have told me about the dairy protien because I would have tried anything to help him stop. Give it a try. It will take a few days for the protien to leave your system so don't give up...
But no, you can't spoil a baby, even though sometimes I think that my 7 week old is!! She wants me all the time. I know it is because I equal food to her...
Best of luck to you!!!
2007-12-20 22:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by bjenn53 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you breast feed or fomula feed? If you formula feed I suggest trying different formulas for colic, spitting up, etc. That may help. At 2 months, I dont think she would already have seperation anxiety or that she could be spoiled. Babies need lots of love this young. I'd say she is in pain because of something, but what that something is, is hard to diagnose, hence the reason they have said she has colic- it's such a general term. I know it is frustrating. Our son went through a period like this, but once we got him situated with a good formula and he no longer had gas and wasn't spitting up as much, he was a happy baby. I know it is hard. Have you tried a swing or bouncer?
2007-12-20 22:08:20 · answer #4 · answered by lysistrata411 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't spoil a baby! Holding a baby makes it feel safe and comforted, and you daughter is learning to trust you. It will stop shortly. Listen to the doctors. One thing you can check is tags in her clothes to see if they are bothering her, if she is too warm or too cold, still hungry or over-stimulated by noise from a radio or tv. Most likely it is just colic and holding her will help. Have you tried gripe water? I've heard its a miracle cure for colic.
2007-12-20 22:15:12 · answer #5 · answered by Ima 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My 1st born was like this. We had switched her formula and all of a sudden she was colicky. Then we put her back on what she originally was drinking and all was good. I also invested in a carrier so I could have her close to me whenever I couldn't hold her. Walking in the stroller usually helped. Did the dr give any suggestions on how to alleviate the colic?
2007-12-20 22:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A two month old is not spoiled. She's learning to trust you and to understand that she will find safety and comfort with you. This is important to let her experience now so she'll be more confident to start to move away on her own as she gets older.
See these sites for some help. They've worked WONDERS for more than one woman I know.
http://www.thehappiestbaby.com/book_chapters.html
http://www.azcentral.com/health/kids/articles/0118swaddle18other.html
One thing that helped me ease my children into lying down for naps on their own was I'd put them in their bassinet, and then I'd sit in a chair next to the bassinet and rub their backs in slow, soothing circles. (They were lying on their sides.) I'd just repeat Shhhhhhh... almost in a hypnotic pattern. (Like they were listening to the sea.) Over time, I was able to reduce the amount of time I sat there, until it eventually reached a point where I could give them a quick rub and a Shhhhh...and then walk away.
2007-12-20 22:07:51 · answer #7 · answered by Jess H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't spoil a newborn. They cry because they don't like something around them or they are wanting something. Newborns don't have it in their heads yet that oh hey I want to make my parents lives miserable so I'm going to cry all night long. They can't talk yet so crying is the only way that they can really voice what they want to us and lucky us we are the ones that get to run back and forth picking them up and making sure everything is okay.
2007-12-20 22:05:26 · answer #8 · answered by may08mommy 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can't spoil a baby has already been said. She wants you to hold her for whatever reason is in her young mind. Maybe she feels cold without you, maybe she enjoys the way your voice sounds as it vibrates in your chest. She can't tell you right out she wants to be with you, so she cries.
2007-12-20 22:36:25 · answer #9 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't spoil a newborn baby. Just hold her when she wants to be held. She's just trying to tell you that she wants to be with you. There's nothing wrong with her wanting to be with her mom. Hold her and love her as much as you can.
2007-12-20 22:06:15 · answer #10 · answered by true blue 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋