As mentioned in previous questions, I came home last night and smacked my wife across the face, knocking her onto the couch when she asked why I got home so late. I don't want to hurt her and I am extremely ashamed of this behavior. She ran to her sister's.
I am under constant stress as the owner of a dental business / dentist. Work was tough yesterday. I'm not using that as an excuse. It shouldn't have happened but drinking complicated it and now here I am afraid my wife will be too afraid to return to me.
Is there ANYTHING at all I can do to make it up to her? ANYTHING? Please, I am extremely desperate or I wouldn't come onto one of these sites. I'm just looking for some quick responses. Thank you.
2007-12-20 13:49:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
How about calling as saying that you are sorry and you will do anything to make her up.
2007-12-20 13:54:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being on the other side of the hand, there is nothing you can do to make this up. Being abused is no picnic. I think you should take some time and think about why you felt the desire to take that frustration out on your wife. Talk to a counselor first or perhaps offer to go to counseling together. But you do have an issue, and just because you only did it once doesn't mean you are not abusive
2007-12-20 13:55:21 · answer #2 · answered by Mia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is tough. I swore if my husband EVER hit me for ANY reason. I would be gone and I sincerely mean this with EVERY inch of my soul. I have seen abuse in too many of my friends and family relationships and it NEVER goes away. I agree with the counseling, but for what you have done there are no quick answers or fast fixes. What happens next is her decision only. NOTHING can make up for what has happened, you both just need to take steps to move forward, whether it be together or apart.
2007-12-20 14:13:21 · answer #3 · answered by blackdagger♥381 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope that is the first and last time. I don't know if you can make something like that up to her. It isn't the physical pain that will scar, but the mental/emotional pain you caused. Nothing will fix it magically. Maybe you should promise to stop drinking if that was a factor?
2007-12-20 13:55:51 · answer #4 · answered by burn_to_blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its something that cannot be resolve overnight, it will take time. Show to your wife how sorry you are & ask her to listen to you then explain why you have done it. Its better you will be the first to pick her up in her sister house don't wait for her to come home. Your love for each other will lead you back in each other arms.
2007-12-20 14:19:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my husband did that to me I would lose alot of trust. I couldn't trust that he wouldn't do that again. First and foremost just talk to her. I know I would be very afraid to return home for awhile if that happened to me.
That's a very bad move on your part and I know you can't take it back now, but its a hard subject. I don't even know what my husband would have to do to me in order to make it up to me. I would be furious and run far away.
2007-12-20 13:55:51 · answer #6 · answered by kristy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st off STOP DRINKING
2nd Tell your wife that you are sorry and that you want to prove yourself BEFORE she comes back
3rd Go to counseling
4th Get yourself under control. You wouldn't hit a patient, a nurse, a receptionist or anyone else under any circumstances. That means you can control it.
Take anger management, etc.
2007-12-20 14:07:44 · answer #7 · answered by Truth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are trying to use stress as an excuse--drinking won't make things better because of work related stress. Anyways, call her to try to talk to her--go seek counseling, and start going to church and start praying.
2007-12-20 13:58:53 · answer #8 · answered by Tbrat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out the house and go get you a motel room somewhere; call your wife and let her know that you are sorry and where you will be staying; give her time to want to reach out to you and then do whatever she suggest;
2007-12-20 14:02:49 · answer #9 · answered by Juanita T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, seeing you hit her... I don't think flowers will work.
Enroll yourself in an anger management class and offer her marital counseling. That's the only way I'd come back to ya.
2007-12-20 13:55:17 · answer #10 · answered by Just Tryin' to Help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋