Whenever I like someone, I always feel like they are too good for me and that I can never have anything with them. I usually think something like "there are so many other girls that they know and they will probably choose them over me." Why do I feel this way and what can I do to change my thinking?
2007-12-20 13:16:21 · 6 answers · asked by Jess 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
With age usually comes maturity, right now you are just a bit insecure, give life time, grow into it. You have to learn to walk before you can run, take time in your youth. Don't try to grow up in just a few days.
I'm 59 and I'm still working on it.
2007-12-20 13:23:26 · answer #1 · answered by ♫ Bubastes, Cat Goddess♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have a hard time accepting who you are. I know i did and i felt that way not sure if it goes hand in hand.
some times i still feel that way it's weird. I think socity has labeled and past judgment on so many things that are not postive.
Something that helps me is keeping a log of stuff i did. for example clean the house, gave money to the box at mcdonalds, completed project.. but i detailed mine. then when ever i was going to be around people who I already had that thought i was sort of on a accomplishment buzz.
I always would look at it prior to a party where i didnt' know anyone as well to boost my self esteem and self worth. and when i wright it in the book i feel good.
I also learnt to accept things as they are and to stop putting judgement on others. I think that helped to because i was too buzy looking at what they did well for example. and to see what education i could learn from them. no matter how tiny.
well good luck!
2007-12-20 21:31:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have low self esteem issues which can be hard to "fix". Sometimes you need to talk to a professional that knows how to treat this. If a guy likes you he likes YOU! Don't sabatoge a good thing by feeling less about yourself. I'm sure you are a beautiful, smart girl that has lots to offer. Just tell yourself that everyday!
2007-12-20 21:26:55 · answer #3 · answered by capegirlal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself, what can other girls my age do that I can't?
There nothing wrong with putting others above yourself, as long as you don't degrade your self worth in the process.
Thinking of others before yourself is a more desirable attribute than thinking the world is all about you, like a lot of "Me, Me, Me" people out there.
There are givers and takers and you my dear are a giver... just be careful people don't constantly take advantage of your good graces so your heart becomes hardened.
2007-12-20 21:36:49 · answer #4 · answered by Mr Hildenbrand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This must be human nature, seeing as so many people feel the same way
those who don't must have had some really good parenting to overcome the self-doubt that plagues so many of us
2007-12-20 21:24:37 · answer #5 · answered by waia2000 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its the way you are seeing yourself not the way you are seeing them that is the problem. and it can be a problem. i felt like my boyfriend was too good for me and over time i have not felt that way as much. but its still an issue and influences our relationship. you never want to give that kind of power to someone to determine your self worth. that is how abusive relationships can start. (not for me) but honestly, its just something you have to see in yourself and praise yourself for.
2007-12-20 21:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by lalie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋