what you will do ? Please assume that you don't want to get divorce, we are talking long time married (15 years) and has kid
2007-12-20 13:02:53 · 26 answers · asked by harry 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If they ain't paying my bills - i would call Chuck Norris. But they if were cheating with Chuck, You are out of Luck!
Serious note- If my partner dishonored me in this way, they just threw away 15 years and a kid for a fling.
You are left with no option. How could you ever trust this person again. Not worth the heart ache. With out trust, integrity, and commitment, you have nothing.
2007-12-20 13:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you answer have long talks and take longer walks, you know you've found love. When you can put up with the subtle snoring in the wee hours of the morning, you've found love. When you can't go an hour without wanting to hear his/her voice, you've found love. But if you live with a person who has been unfaithful to you, no matter how long you've been married, you've found heartache.
Don't confront the lover because it wouldn't do much good, and you may find some things that you weren't looking for. If that person felt whole and complete with you, there would've been no reason to cheat.
If you don't want a divorce, get help. If he/she still wants to roam, get out!
2007-12-20 13:21:36 · answer #2 · answered by hardrider_x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, once a cheater, always a cheater, but I have wondered that lately. Take celebrity couples. How can Britney Spears be so sure Kevin won't ever cheat on her, seeing as how he cheated on his former girlfriend to be with her? Same for Garth Brooks and Trisha Yearwood. If he wasn't faithful before, how can she be sure he will be faithful to her? I was with a guy who cheated on exes and also was supposedly cheated on too. As much as I wanted to believe in him in the beginning, I find it hard to believe him when he tries to tell me now that he never cheated on me while we were together. Especially now, when he is messing around with whoever wants to, and trying to hook back up with me at the same time! (Not like it's getting him anywhere with me, though.) All in all, I wouldn't trust a guy who has cheated, but maybe some people do change for the right person. I really don't know. Maybe some people continue to cheat, and others finally see it's pointless and want to stop.
2016-04-10 10:31:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fist of all, if anyone is cheating on you, especially if you are married(1 or 100 years) that person seriously does not consider your feelings and you should move on. Don't confront the other party. Why? So that they can tell you they are just friends, or you made them cheat. C'mon, the person cheating has a problem not YOU. You decide whether you deserve someone treating you this way... or you deserve better. Believe me, it just causes more distrust in a relationship and a lot of arguing. Its hard to let go but you have to think about yourself and your child and that you will survive.
2007-12-20 13:36:36 · answer #4 · answered by SeLaVi23 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lady the problem is with your husband not the other woman. If your husband is cheating he is probably lying as well. the two go together. you need to confront your husband and deal only with the cause. either he will stop and the two of you work on this problem together or else you will divorce and find someone who is honest at heart.
2007-12-20 14:16:59 · answer #5 · answered by Peggy G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person I would talk to is a divorce attorney. I never cheated on my ex and I do not, under any circumstances tolerate a cheating spouse and the ex found out the years we were together did nothing to change my mind.
2007-12-20 13:24:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, dont confront or talk to the girl/boyfriend. The problem was that your mate strayed, its between you and them, not the third party, the third party may have not even known that they were married, and if they did, the issue of straying is still something that you and your partner have to solve, especially if you dont want a divorce. Confronting the third party wont solve the issues inside your marriage.
Good luck!
2007-12-20 13:08:41 · answer #7 · answered by Jo 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Confronting the third party will not solve anything. You need to get your spouse into marriage counseling with you if you want to save the marriage.
2007-12-20 13:13:50 · answer #8 · answered by kadel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would confront him/her first then if i think tat he/she is lying i would confront the mistress/other guy.....if the partner is not remorseful and end the relationship after u threaten to leave then just file for a divorce...only give a chance if he/she is willing to stop and change, otherwise he/she will just continue
2007-12-20 13:10:27 · answer #9 · answered by Sony 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you can't get answers from your spouse, confront the other offending party. You have a right to know what is going on.
2007-12-20 13:34:11 · answer #10 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋