i have recently recovered from surgery on my heart, my wife never cared to visit me in the hospital or call, im not even sure what she was doing home (we dont have kids) well a friend of mine did visit me (female) and she would visit me almost everyday and spend about 2 hours with me, she would bring me many things, flowers, a laptop and ipod (so i wasn't bored) and we would talk often. the closest thing that came to a kiss was a kiss on a cheek, after i recovered i decided to file for divorce but my wife is saying i had an affair did i?
2007-12-20 12:51:08 · 18 answers · asked by Hi T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO
It sounds like this person cares for you, but you did nothing wrong , physically.
Now there are those who would say, if you act out your desires in your mind, that you have sinned. You have to call on your own beliefs.
Then there are "affairs of the heart"... which it is possible you are having one. If you have fallen in love with this friend, and your feelings and actions are leaning toward the desire to be with her, you are on the way.
Sounds like you have decisions to make..
Good luck!
2007-12-20 12:59:12 · answer #1 · answered by thinkaboutmoney 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF all that happened is what you said, then no, you didn't cheat. I wouldn't be happy with it as your wife, but then again I wouldn't have ignored you while you were in the hospital. Some people just can't handle stressful situations, perhaps she is one of them? If the rest of your marriage has been good, give her another chance. If it is typical of her behavior, move on. You already know life is too short. Best of luck on your recovery and future!
2007-12-20 13:01:28 · answer #2 · answered by Sherry B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you only did what you say and you just had a female friend visit you and bring you gifts then no technically it doesn't sound like you cheated. However, if you even have to ask it makes me wonder if you are feeling guilty about something? Good luck, hope you are feeling all better!
2007-12-20 12:54:50 · answer #3 · answered by grace 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not probably telling the whole story to us
as you say she visited you almost everyday, yet
you say and then a kiss on the cheek, so in that
you know good and well if you cheated or not, and
since we don't really know what took place on
those almost daily visits , it would not be a honest
answer to give you weather you cheated or not.
2007-12-20 13:55:50 · answer #4 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you didn't cheat, of course!! Goodness!! No wonder you needed heart surgery, you're too tense and uptight!
She (your friend) sounds like a true and good friend indeed.
Your wife sounds like an enemy. You don't lose out by divorcing her butt and caring for someone who cares about you in return!
2007-12-20 13:01:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you didn't cheat!!!!! You were in the hospital and she didn't do her job. I'm really curious what your wife was doing the reason she was so busy to visit you in the hospital. You know that they say people usually accuse you of something when they are guilty of the crime.
2007-12-20 12:58:39 · answer #6 · answered by pecarican 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a little emotionally,but sounds to me like she didn't care in the first place,things must have already been rocky or else you would not have filed for a divorce,don't sweat it,she's gone,move on.GOOD LUCK
2007-12-20 13:25:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your case according to your story she is defaulter in capital letters. She never cared about you or lets say when you needed her most it means something is wrong. You did nothing wrong you are not cheater & what you explained is not affair it was humanity by your friend. DIVORCE her and find someone who cares about you. Good Luck
2007-12-20 13:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by Kaaran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, what's up with your wife?
If you filed for divorce because of the time you spent with this "friend" then I would say yes, you cheated. Cheating doesn't have to involve sex. When sex is not involved it all depends on what the time you've spent with the other person meant to you.
2007-12-20 12:59:40 · answer #9 · answered by Kimmie J 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO you did not. But it sounds like somebody is projecting. Usually when a spouse is cheating........they accuse you of having an affair. Interesting, istn't it?
2007-12-20 13:42:57 · answer #10 · answered by SweetSerendipity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋