I have letter written to all my kids since they were small in the event that I would ever die. Are you prepared to go...? Death has no respect for anyone so, I was sure that I made my letters and every so often, I replace them with new ones.
2007-12-20 12:46:03 · 23 answers · asked by LittleDaisy. 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
never thought about doing that -- it would something they will always keeps and cherish!!! you are one smart lady!!!
2007-12-20 12:58:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
My mom has died and I still remember the things she did not so much any messages she may have left behind for us to read when she died.
Little things like when we lived in Chicago and she would bundle us up and kneel down to tie my wool scarf, she would tie it and tell me she loved me and to stay warm. Over 40 years later I still remember her loving embraces and kisses I would get before I went to school.
When my oldest daughter turned 25 last year, she already had her own home, had graduated college and steady employment so I gave her something that she would remember me by. I went through all of my old photo albums and I made a large scrap book of her baby pictures, school pictures, halloween, Christmas and other holidays, I got them organized and identified people in the photos, where we lived, what her favorite things were, songs she liked etc.....
I did not spend a lot of money, just my time and effort. When she opened her gift she cried with happiness. She loved it and there were photos there that she had never seen.
For my other daughter I got her a birthday card and told her about when she was born, how I felt when I held her for the first time, told her stories about her younger years etc.....
My children are now 26, 24 and 20. To this day when I have one of them in the car with me, I talk about my childhood, my parents, my dreams when I was young etc.............
They will remember all of these things as I do, when I think of my mom. Don't dwell on when you are going to die, but live to share your thoughts, ideas and family history to your children while you are alive.
2007-12-20 14:23:17 · answer #2 · answered by Beatrice C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can pretty much die happy now that I've been reunited with my oldest child. I do have 5 books I am in the process of writing. The story of me and each child from before their conception up until the lst entry...and only the Lord knows when that time will come.
2007-12-21 05:11:16 · answer #3 · answered by Southern Comfort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is an excellent idea to write letters. I am not afraid of not saying anything to my oldest son. It's another story regarding my other three children. My mom (now deceased) used to email me advice even when I was in my 50's. Well, I am still in my 50's. So, those teens and twentys and above, if your parents still want to give advice, please listen politely and say, "Thank you, Mom or Dad." Cause there will come a time when they aren't around, like my mom... I do have some of her emails, giving me advice....
2007-12-20 15:03:05 · answer #4 · answered by Judith H 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When my Father became terminally ill, we both started telling each other we loved each other when we said our good byes not knowing if it would be the last. It was especially hard in the beginning for him to say those words since he had not been brought up hearing them.( His own Mother died when he was 14, and he ended up enlisting in the Navy when he was 17 to get away from his drunk Dad and younger sibling).SO, I have always learned to express my feeling while someone is alive, even though it might make them feel uncomfortable, I want them to know my feelings for them. And, I try to get flowers..even cash and carry...for my friends now instead of waiting and buying my first boquet for them when they are dead and do not know. My Father taught me to have no regrets.
2007-12-20 20:27:25 · answer #5 · answered by Harley Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing My children know me and I have a 35 year old and a 10 year. With children and Grandchildren in the middle....They all have a piece of my history and I have said it all and each day am a live I say more by my example.......They all know I love them .....by my words and deeds am still a young senior....... but I could go anytime and each of my love ones have my heart.....and in turn I have their heart.......No, I am not afraid that I have not told them all they need to know...at this time I have nothing to say in a letter.....I have my girls daughters and( daughter in laws) and my sons know me I know will care on Family Traditions, they know my recipes, my morals, my views what I think is important.....They know to have balance and to stay on a red road.......
2007-12-20 14:09:57 · answer #6 · answered by abuelamah 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I have wished many times I had said more to my husband when he was so sick. He was getting radiation and chemo. I just did what he needed, fussed with him when I felt he wasn't taking enough nourishment and generally treated him as tho he would get well and all would be fine. I told him I loved him frequently, but we didn't talk about "the other possibility". Now I just wish I had told him he gave me the happiest years of my life.
2007-12-21 06:03:51 · answer #7 · answered by June smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree completely that Death will take anyone, anytime, and I view every time I and a loved one part, it could be for the last time. I tell the people I love that I love them everyday, sometimes more than once, and I mean it every time...
2007-12-20 14:16:01 · answer #8 · answered by Morbid One 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Good question.I have told my daughters anything that they may need to know.Like things from the past that was never told to a child,but an adult could handle.They know my wishes and that I want to be the next to go.I am very ready for death,just waiting now.....
2007-12-21 03:37:19 · answer #9 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a very thoughtful way of saying goodbye. I am afraid
of not finding our oldest grandson, to tell him he has grand-
parents who've wanted to find his family for years and his
father has made that impossible. Now that I have found his
father and family, I have no clue where to find him. I want to
tell him we love him and tho we last saw him at two, we
love him now, as much as we did then.
I don't have many to say goodbye to. But those, I feel know
how much I care for them. And since you have given me that
idea, I will write a note addressing each of them. To either
be read from one common letter, or individual ones. Life has
taught me, that so few people who enter your life, stay in your
life for the duration. And when you become elderly, you can
often only count on one hand, those who are true friends. And
sometimes that can be within your own family as well. But that is rare. Many families have become so disjointed, and at war with one another. Family unity is becoming rarer and rarer as generations have evolved. But for those who want
to leave something unsaid to those left behind, a note as
you suggest would be of benefit, to aid in closure.
Thank you for offering your suggestion to the rest of us. I
plan to adopt it myself.
2007-12-20 14:03:50 · answer #10 · answered by Lynn 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
leave nothing left unsaid. I tell my loved ones on a daily/regular basis what they mean to me, how much I appreciate them, what kind of wonderful person I think they are etc....especially my children and grandchildren. I'll call my sister tomorrow. You have made me realize I haven't talked to her in awhile. I'll tell her how much I love her and how much I appreciate how she has always been like a mom to me.
Thanks for the question.
2007-12-20 17:32:17 · answer #11 · answered by Eve 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋