i am 18 and my life seems to be goin down a slippery slide, i lost my full time job so only work 2nights a week now and i suffer from depression. frankily i dont see my life getting any better i dont feel like im living for anything thing. i have a loving bf who i have been with 2 years and i feel that perhaps a baby would bring light to my life and give me a reason to be happy
please let me know what u think x
2007-12-20 12:38:33 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
babies bring lots of headaches along with happiness. If you are in a dark place in your life when you have a baby, you may find it to be way more than you bargained for.
2007-12-20 12:43:32 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ ~Isabelle's mommy~ ♥ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
do not have a baby right now, bringing a baby into the world to try to make your life better is a mistake and is not fair to the innocent child involved. you jsut said you lost your full time job, how are you going to afford a baby? any idea how much they cost? Im assuming you dont. I have spent over a thousand dollars in the past month on my baby and shes not even here until April. I also didnt even get half the stuff i NEED yet.
a dpressed mother is not good for a baby. plus if your already depressed, think how your going to feel after you give birth. ever hear of post pardum depression?
its bad. women have killed themselves because of it.
do not have a baby
2007-12-20 12:43:37 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy 2 be 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
By bringing a baby into this world, you are taking responsibility for the baby. Do you have this commitment? You think a baby will solve your problems? It will bring in more with which you are not in a position to cope at this stage in your life. Go get a job and get out of the depression. May be you need to see a doctor.
2007-12-20 14:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by wind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babies may bring joy and happiness, but they also bring stess and sleepless nights. You have a baby because you have the money, a safe enviorment, and a loving family for it to come into. Your 18 though, don't you want to go to college and get a good job that you need a degree for? As you said, you are going down a slippery slide, a baby will only make it more slippery. Please wait.
Good Luck
2007-12-20 14:18:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious! If you are asking the question then the answer is no...but then I read the rest and I think you should never have children because I don't think you are capable. Children are a lot of work and a lot stress. If you don't like your life the way it is now you aren't going to like it when you have a kid...you'll probably like it less. You're 18...you haven't even lived life yet. Get off the pitty pot and get a life! get some friends and hold down a full time job...or better yet go to college better yourself.
2007-12-20 13:00:27 · answer #5 · answered by Kikihops 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
losing a job is depressing to anyone. your lifes not out of control just b/c u lost a job. if need be find a better or another job. having a child at this point of your life might seem to be a wonderful thing to hold, love, and share. trust me i have seven. but having children should be a ? between both you and your b/f. and even believe it or not your parents should have some sort of say. after all, maybe they think they r 2 young 2 be grandparents.
2007-12-20 13:04:07 · answer #6 · answered by Jim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think about what would happen if you had a baby and you still feel the same. What kind of life would that be for your baby? Having a baby will not solve your problems, and it could easily add to your stress. I would seek help for your depression and solve any issues before you consider having a baby.
2007-12-21 00:50:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt sound very stable for a child AT ALL.. plus your still young and have a lot of living to do yet...
a decision like HAVING A BABY, needs to be one of the best things in your life.. not something that you consider will fill the void in your life at the moment.
unfortunatly.. depression only gets worse if you dont do something about it... a baby DEFFINETLY would put more struggle in your life.. even tho the good times are worth every bit, DONT DO IT!
USE A LITTLE COMMON SENSE, THIS IS NOT JUST YOURSELF YOUR TALKING ABOUT HERE...
2007-12-20 12:44:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
NO,... a baby is not the solution! As a matter of fact, if you are going to use a baby to fix things then you aren't going to give it the best life possible. And if you already know you are not in the best financial situation then you should probably wait.
2007-12-20 12:52:03 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should wait to have a baby...you will be much happier if you get your life together and then have a baby...have you ever considered college?? that way you get an education, then a good job and then have a baby..it will make things much easier and you can enjoy your new baby without having to worry about how you are going to pay for things
2007-12-20 13:10:22 · answer #10 · answered by Lilsnowflake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋