My best friend has not been eating as much as she should and she always complains about her weight and feeling weak. She's already thin and pale, but latly she seem to look sickly pale and thin. I am worried she is not eating. I have a cousin who has an eating dissorder and I notice my friend doing the same thing my cousin did when she started. I have asked her about it and she says she is eating but I do not believe her. Her perants do not really care about what she eats and what she does not eat, so telling them would be a waste of time. The school has already asked her about it and she said she was fine. I am I over reacting? should I believe her and leave it alone?
2007-12-20 12:07:21 · 5 answers · asked by .Heather. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” ~~Lao Tzu quotes (Chinese taoist Philosopher. 600 BC-531 BC)
You need to find the strength to talk to her. Why not go to Google and research eating disorders? Then when you speak with her you will have good, solid information to give her. Look for counselor or nutritionists in your area who might help. Has she been to the doctor? Maybe she really is earing but there is something else going on medically. Do you have a guidance counselor at school or a priest/minister/rabbi that you can talk to in confidence.
Frankly, I think you are a great friend. Stop worrying and use the energy to find solutions to assist your best friend.
2007-12-20 12:17:43 · answer #1 · answered by Beach Saint 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is so sad that her parents don't care. As a mom of little kids, I worry all the time about what they are eating. Maybe you should help educate her on what is nutritious but not high calorie. At least then she'd be getting the vitamins and minerals she needs, which is half of it. Or try telling her how great prenatal vitamins make hair and nails look and see if she will start taking them. It wont solve the problem but it could help her stay healthier while you try to help her. Eating disorders are usually about a feeling of lost control, not really weight. There is probably a lot going on that she feels no control over and she does have control over what she eats or doesn't eat. Not eating can be both a punishment for assumed failures and a way to feel like she can at least do that right. You can't fix the physical without fixing the mental side of an eating disorder. And remember, while it is great to help, it is not all up to you. If you can't help her, you didn't fail, her parents did.
2007-12-20 20:49:24 · answer #2 · answered by Milo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not overreacting. Try to get your friend to eat more, even if it is front of you. This way you will see how much she is or isn't eating. Don't nag her but let her know you are concerned about her health. Make everything sound like a health issue or she may not listen.
2007-12-20 20:25:01 · answer #3 · answered by insane one 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to her, but not in an accusing way. Just let her know that you're worried and that you'll be there for her if she is having problems.
If she still denies it, then let it go for now, and don't continue to bother her about it, but watch her closely to make sure its not getting worse.
2007-12-20 20:37:46 · answer #4 · answered by KiKo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
2007-12-20 20:15:08 · answer #5 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋