I’m 27 years old and a Virgin. Now there was a time I couldn’t care less about this! The only thing important to me were: taking care of my mom, hanging out with family,sustaining a job, enjoying my favorite hobbies (i.e. reading, writing, watching movies – I’m a huge movie buff of classics and contemporary films) and ultimately staying out of trouble. I’m not someone who wants to lose their virginity just for the sake of it. I’m not a weirdo, but I do suffer from anxiety and have morals and standards. For someone who’s lived a substantial part of his life away from peer pressure until recently, I feel like it’s catching up with me big time. I have guy friends (all seem happy with themselves) who have F*(k buddies and girlfriends. They constantly brag about their sex life to me and each other. It’s all about what they did, and how long they did it. They know I’m a virgin and they tell me: “You’re going about it the right way but you’re missing out on the best sex of your life!” Sex – as we all know – is discussed and shown needlessly on TV and elsewhere and all of this has made me very depressed recently; making me frustrated with my life. To some extent I even feel jealous. I’ve stopped hanging out with those friends and I’m now trying to adjust mentally on my own without negative thoughts about myself and feelings of loneliness. I feel like I shouldn’t be around friends who feel the need to brag about their sex life as if they’re complete morons who have nothing else to offer. I’m a little bit more mature than that. Do you think I’ve responded in the right way? In this sex crazed society what can one do to not feel bad about being a virgin?
2007-12-20 12:04:59 · 6 answers · asked by ramos3000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Seek out like-minded people. There are a great many people who abstain from the nonsensical game of f**k-buddyism.
Stay strong. As an artist and writer who grew up in the age of "Flower Children" and "Free Love," I know all too well how difficult it is to remain true to your inner core beliefs.
Here are two good reasons to stay away from the "hook-up" scene:
~~ Each day in America 8,000 teens will be infected with a sexually-transmitted disease (STD).(Meg Meeker, M.D., (2002), Epidemic. Washington DC, Regency Publishing Company).
~~ One out of four sexually active teens in America is infected with a sexually transmitted disease.(AGI, Sex and America's Teenagers, New York: AGI, 1994, pp.19-20).
Focus, focus, focus. Develop friendships with people who share your beliefs. Learn how to recognize the four levels of friendship: acquaintances, casual friends, close friends, and intimate friends.
As the Project Reality website says, intimate friends are very special and rare. At this level of sharing, intimate friends feel comfortable sharing their innermost thoughts and feelings. Intimate friends share a deep understanding of and appreciation for the views and values of those involved. A desire for intimate friendship is a basic human quality that calls for a giving of self to others and can result in a lasting love relationship. A person would be fortunate to have five intimate friends in a lifetime. One of those intimate friends will be a marriage partner. Marriage is a lifetime relationship for the health and well being of a man and a woman, as a family environment for children, and as an institution for the well being of society at large.
2007-12-20 12:38:28 · answer #1 · answered by Beach Saint 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a girlfriend. You do not have to sleep her. Just find someone that cares about you and believes in the same things as you. I am 15 and even at this age all my friends talk about are sex, drugs, and drinking. I choose to stay alway from those thing. I still hang out with and they still talk about sex, but I found another group of friends that see things like me. I hang out with both groups because they both offer different things. Even if they are immature they are still fun. So do not loose your old friends but look for other friends as well.
2007-12-20 20:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by .Heather. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Think of all the abortions, unwanted pregnancies, STD and even Aids, people have for having sex! You have avoided all of that! Not to mention the drama of being in a relationship with someone you are sleeping with. Sex only complicates things.
As for your friends, if they are your friends you should accept their differences, since they accept yours, but if they are being jerks to you, then clearly they are not your friends.
As far as the best sex of your life comment, no one said that it was only with f buddies or girlfriends. That type of comment is usually referred to happily married couples. I hardly doubt guys who brag like that know what its like to really love a woman and want to please her and have her do the same knowing how deeply they care about each other on an emotional level. Be strong!
2007-12-20 20:17:00 · answer #3 · answered by Lely 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea i feel that no longer talking to them was the best decision to make because true friends would respect your beliefs and not talk about sex especially if it makes you feel uncomfortable, etc. And i think the best thing you can do to not feel bad about being a virgin is knowing that in the end you are making a wise decision....
2007-12-20 20:10:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is your choice, and you should be happy to stick by it. Find the right girl and take it from there. Being 27 has nothing to do with it. =]
2007-12-20 20:10:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
be happy with your decisions.
2007-12-20 20:11:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋