I have known my first love since 1985, i had just graduated from 8 grade, We didn't start dating until 1987, I went on his junior and senior prom, We were madly in loe then and we still love each other today. Although, He is married, we still have a close bond, I still get butterflies when I see him. Why is this after all these years?
2007-12-20 11:33:01 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They say we NEVER really get over our first love might be true but I couldn't tell u. Just make sure u respect his marriage. Have u tried dating other people or fall inlove again?
2007-12-20 11:37:29 · answer #1 · answered by ღStarzzღ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal no one forgets there first love that is sweet.
But remember one thing be a respectable young lady and don't act out on those feelings.
Who knows maybe one day you will end up together.
It is nice to have that dream most people never experience that.
I love someone who I have known for years and I know he loves me because of immigration and such we are not together and he did marry someone else.
I think about him and wish him well but would never dissrespect marriage.
But it is a fantasy that one day it may be
isn't love grand
Don't act on it hold it in your heart
2007-12-20 11:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by lisalisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm right there in the neighborhood with you on this one. I met my first love at a school trip to Washington D.C. in 1981. I have never forgotten him. We wrote for a while, but lost touch before my first marriage ended in 1990. It's crazy still feeling a viable attachment to someone who is either extremely distant or not present in your life. I believe psychologist say that we hold on to these emotional connections because they occurred in our young formative years. It's during that time when our identities were being defined by significant life experiences, like meeting someone who we fall in love with. In my case I was 17 and not looking to find someone special on that trip. I saw him from afar and bang! Fortunately he responded with equal curiosity and we bonded quickly. The lasting feelings come from "unfinished business" so to speak. Your mind (or heart) longs to resolve this issue-or bring it to a happy ending. I feel so crazy still thinking about him after nearly 30 years. But I recognize it now as something psychological, like my aversion to horror movies.
I hope this helps.
2007-12-20 12:13:40 · answer #3 · answered by Karis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why didnt you 2 stay together? I feel if he is married now then unless you were with someone else then i dont think he obviously thought of you at the time. If its the case that you were with someone and he is now married you have to let him go and let hime live his life with the woman he chose, even if thats hard to do. Things could get really messy and he could end up blaming you. If you are great friends then let it be that way. Who knows at least a great friend is forever. By becoming a couple it could ruin your friendship. Also sometimes you can be more attracted to the person you cant have.
2007-12-20 11:40:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is probably still in love with their first love or at least the idea of it because like most of us, our first love was in a time when our lives were simpler and a whole lot less complicated,not like our lives today. This also meant we had more time to devote to him or her
2007-12-20 11:43:06 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"First romance, first love, is something so special to all of us, both emotionally and physically, that it touches our lives and enriches them forever."
I met my first love during my senior year in high school but after a year...I separated from him because of my family's financial pressure that I need to work abroad...I lost contact with him...there are times that I can't get him out of my mind but I just need to accept the fact that he was just a part of my past because I am already married then after 17 years of marriage with 3 kids, I found out that my husband had an affair for several years with the same woman so I've decided to divorce my husband. Then after a year of my divorce....I suddenly came across my first love through the internet/friendster...I just looked at his profile but never send a message because too scared to be rejected....then after a month he e-mails me...then our friendship begins....e-mails, chat, phone calls....it seems that he was never gone...I could say the timing was right because he's already legally separated from his wife....after several months of communication...we decided to rekindle our love....to see if we still feel the same way but to our surprise we love each other more than yesterday....and with our family's love & support we're planning to get married next year ....now I could say that my first love is also my last love....true love.
2007-12-20 12:34:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is I met a girl in ninteen sixty three and were strongly atracted to each other. We are both married for many years to someone else now and still exchange Christmas cards every year.Does that tell you anything? Sweety made some good points here.
2007-12-20 11:41:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let that boy reign you too hard, Girlie. But love makes us weak to such things... sigh This be a deep one needing pondering.
2016-03-19 07:45:09 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say you never forget your first true love so i guess you are proof that its true.
2007-12-20 11:41:01 · answer #9 · answered by broken</3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously you had a very special bond, perhaps that you havent had since??
2007-12-20 11:37:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋