I am not a sex addict..so take note of that.
My problem is frustrating. I got married to the girl I love about 9 months ago. We have been apart ever since our honeymoon 9 months ago. This is because of certain financial issues and family obligations that have to be prioritized first. Once those things & responsibilities are finished, then she can leave her country and we can finally start our lives together. I'm basically working for my whole family and even some relatives. I have alot on my shoulders. I have a 2nd job just to be able to support my own very little necessities. I miss her. And that certain part of a marriage is missing, I can't touch her, hold her, or even sometimes look at her. Only through messenger can I see her and talk with her. Its killing me, I havent been satisfying my desires for a very long time....and I know some of you will say that I can satisfy myself....trust me I have....but its coming to a point where I almost hate it.
2007-12-20 11:31:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what can I do? I don't want this to drive me crazy... I have alot of people depending on me. I can't let anyone down. I need to be strong....but this problem, like I said, is killing me.
2007-12-20 11:32:46 · update #1
the hard part too is that I cant even take a vacation because the minute I stop, is the minute i can't support everyone. I literally dont have a savings.
2007-12-20 11:38:18 · update #2
What are you asking here? If you should forget the financial obligation so you can have sex? I think that if you keep on doin what you're doin it'll all be worth it and you two can have sex like bunnies once you are together. A lot of couples do the wrong thing and get married, start of life in debt and spend their whole marriage trying to get ahead and eventually get a divorce because of all the stress.
2007-12-20 11:37:23 · answer #1 · answered by sherlockstacey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you are saying and where you are coming from. Is there any time limit on the length of time you are going to stay apart? Unfortunately the only way you will overcome this is if you take time out and go visit her,but there is the problem of not earning the money to support them. Can you not move to where she is and get a job that way you will be together. Some time taking your mind off of the situation works. Give me an email or i.m me if you fancy a chat. I know going out is in your situation a waste of money as you need every penny but visit friends and family at there homes. Good luck and i hope all becomes better and very soon for you....Take care
2007-12-20 19:53:33 · answer #2 · answered by Lou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we have to reevaluate our priorities. Perhaps you need to do this. Money and family may not be your highest priority in life at this time.
You need to be honest with yourself. What is more important for you, money or your wife. If the answer is your wife then perhaps you should bring her here and work together as a couple. Having her beside you will at least solve a few of your problems and save your right hand.
Two can almost live as cheaply as one it only takes a little more, but she might be able to find a job and resolve that problem.
I believe you need to back up some, re-evaluate your priorities and get your wife here with you. Both of you will be far happier and together you can solve all the other problems.
2007-12-20 19:47:26 · answer #3 · answered by Cliff R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what kind of responsibilities you have but more than anything try to rid yourself of some responsibilities you are not superman and you are not supposed save every ones life. Just be strong and talk to your family make sure that they take care of their own problems.... because you are now married and your going to have your own responsibilities and you are not going to be able to juggle both families at once. As far as the sex thing honey toughen up because that is something that nobody is going to be able to help you with. Just keep yourself active, join a exercise class some sort of activity or sport that you can get yourself involved in, so you can exert your energy into something else. Be tough because you don't want to fall into temptation, be strong for yourself and most of all your wife, because I'm sure she just as frustrated if not more frustrated than you. Good Luck!!!!
2007-12-20 19:49:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How horrible for you not to see your wife on Christmas eve and Christmas day not to mention New Years eve and day. It sounds like you can't slow down for aday but if you don't you just might not have to worry about missing your wife because you will be making her a widow. You are working way to hard and stressing yourself out on top of it,you better decide what is more important to you right now before it's to late.
2007-12-21 14:04:17 · answer #5 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sal is not the idiot you may conclude he is. Talk about this issue with your wife and if she says OK then look around for a 'working girl' However remember she has the same rights you have hard to take though it may be!
2007-12-20 19:51:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats so tragic and im so sorry that you can't be with the one you love. all you can do is wait it out and make the best of it. i know thats not what you want to hear, but it is the most practical. and then when you can finally live together, everything will be great and the wait will be worth it.
2007-12-20 19:36:55 · answer #7 · answered by jerseybabe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you keep supporting others? these guys must also understand your part. not in your whole life you will ssacrifice for otheers? why.... these guys would also be willing to sacrifice for themselves when time comes you also need their help. i doubt.... maybe partly you can help in a financial way, but not to everything, sooner you will have children, does they always depend on you? why, are they disabled.....?
2007-12-20 20:18:18 · answer #8 · answered by ocean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..."Atlas" ? Do you enjoy much on your shoulders. I would lay odds two to one that you asked her to be away awhile so that "Atlas" can bare and fix it all. Dude, get her back. Good God Almighty have you *Never* discovered what a relationship and working together is about ? heysuez carumba !
2007-12-20 19:38:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you go and visit her or her come to visit you? you need to tell your family that you have to put your future with your wife before taking care of them................. she should really come b4 the rest of your family................. put some money away each week and save the money needed to get her to move to you............ might take you 12 months but at least you will have your loving wife by your side and see her every day
2007-12-20 19:40:40 · answer #10 · answered by jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋