My wife is in consoling for sleeping pill addiction. She is seeing a great consular but they seam to be pining a lot of the problems on me. She has been clean for about two month but I did find pills on her floor a moth a go but she told me she was just throwing them out. She has had her addiction for about 12 years we are married just over a year now. As she work threw her problems with her consular she is finding that I am to controlling and need to let her live her own life more. She had defaulted on all her student loans auto loans and hospital bill went to collection. She also blew are saving during our first year of marriage. I watch her money all the time to make shore she is not blowing it and is paying her bills last month she just did not pay any and when I found out I got on her. Now hear is my question what is the process for a recovering addicts. I feel like I am the bad guy for making her accountable! Every time she build a relationship with a Medical professional it always turns to me being controlling and just need to back of this pore little girl. She has lied to me so many times I can’t even guess what she is telling them for stories. Is this an endless battle? Just a note I live my life as simply as possible I am by no means controlling
2007-12-20 11:24:48 · 5 answers · asked by irishfirefighter762 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Having been through addiction and recovery with my spouse, I feel it was very important for both of us that we went to marriage counselling together. I also joined an Al-Anon group, which is a group for family members of alcoholics and addicts. There I found support for myself and learned how to concentrate on making MYSELF healthy and strong, which made me a better spouse. I would encourage you to look into marriage counselling for you as a couple and Al-Anon for yourself.
2007-12-20 11:50:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly...it is going to be cool to this factor a guy that could not get a job in any respect b/c of his checklist. And besides what objectives ought to they actually accomplish in rehab...waking as much as sh*t bathe and shave? as quickly as he gets out into the authentic international returned that's while there's a serious attempt which he jacked up the 1st time. it is like the bible says in case you do away with innocence then tie a millstone around your neck and bounce into the sea b/c it is a extra robust destiny. So I mean how non secular is he? i don't think of he cared approximately human beings in the previous rehab and there's a great opportunity he wont' after. i does not say do not date him yet shop him close if your into him. See how he gala's yet do not dedicate to him too easily.
2016-12-11 10:29:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal for many addicts. They blame everyone for their problems except where it truly belongs; on themselves. You have no reason to feel guilty or blame yourself for her actions. It sounds like she is a pro with deceiving these rehab counselors though so she may change her ways which then it becomes your problem as to whether stay or move on and only you can decide that especially when enough becomes enough. Good luck and Happy Holidays
2007-12-20 11:54:22 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like her counselor is on drugs too.
2007-12-20 11:30:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you both need counciling.
2007-12-20 11:34:08 · answer #5 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋