My husband and I have been together about 4 years. We have a beautiful daughter who will turn 3 in March. My husband and I have had our share of problems. He is always accusing me of sleeping with other men, etc. I found out that right after I gave birth to my daughter (he became missing for 4+ days) that he was out sleeping with a girl when he claimed he was with some gay friends of his. He has moved to Alabama and I am suppose to move within a week. Things were delayed by him messing with a girl he met there, who was well aware of the situation. I confronted her and she acted innocent. I told her he is legally married so you can call him your boyfriend or whatever, but he isn't any of that. We exchanged some words and he was sticking up for her. Yesterday, he called me and wants his family back,but began questioning everything you can imagine. Is this relationship worth trying to mend? Why do some girls think taking a married man is something to be proud of are they naive
2007-12-20 11:10:01 · 20 answers · asked by Melinda and Morgan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
because they are sleazy. OK seriously I'm sorry that happened if you think you can get over this and eventually forgive him then yes go for it. If you don't thin k you can deal with this them no don't try to push yourself into getting back together with him its not worth hurting yourself even more. I'm not saying get ove it by any means you have every right to be hurt. I'm sorry and good luck
2007-12-20 11:13:47 · answer #1 · answered by nikie_atkinson 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
SERIOUSLY - Do you really believe that his behavior tells you he "wants his family back? Think about it, FOUR DAYS AFTER YOUR DAUGHTER WAS BORN??? What an inapropriate thing to do to his family, totally not cool. Not that there is ever a good time to cheat, but the choices he made only selfishly supports the fact that he is A TOTAL 100% PIG!! Then he goes on you and cheats again??? Yet another selfish - selfcentered action on his part. Honestly, I have to believe there have been several other times which his actions were questioned as well.
PLEASE KNOW THAT YOU ARE TOTALLY WORTH MORE THAN HE IS GIVING YOU......A LOT MORE.If he can not or will not be there for you and your child - than move on. He obviously does not knwo what gifts he ha sbeen given...and surely doesnt appreciate them either.
YOU NEVER HAVE TO SETTLE FOR SECOND BEST. You gave him the chance to better himself, and be loved unconditionally by his family - and yet he cheats on you again. That only tells me that he is no where near the level of a man that you deserve - NO WHERE NEAR IT. You should go out and find a loving, committed man that is willing to MEET your standards. They may be few and far between - but letting this guy continuously put you at the bottom of the list should make you want to fight MORE for the "better things" out there. Once you find the guy that you love and trust, and recieve it in return from him, it is soooooooooooo worth it.
ALSO, it is not the girls sleeping with your man that you should be directing the question to - it is not all of there fault. Yeah, they may be STUPID for sleeping with a married man, but i would question the a$$hole that cant seem to keep it in his pants and then brings it home to his family.
2007-12-20 11:39:13 · answer #2 · answered by litlbigdg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not spend anymore time in this relationship, get out now!! Seriously, since their are kids...you need to think of their best interests. Don't teach them that it's ok for men to abuse women in this way, and then for women just to take it. It's wrong, he's done it to you more than once and probably a lot more than you think. Get away from this man and teach your children to stand up for themselves. You deserve better and so do the kids. Your husband does not sound like a good family man, and that's what the kids really want (even if they don't know it yet). I am so sorry you are faced with this situation!
2007-12-20 11:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by Debi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with this highly. Unfortunately, whose to say that feminism won't spread in certain countries in a certain amount of time. For example,...What if a guy whose like 18-25 reading what you said. When he goes over seas, he feels deceived because feminism has spread in a certain country. Claiming that there is a land of milk and honey is not to easily be assumed. A lot can happen within 3 to 5 years.
2016-04-10 10:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mostly because of a non committal relationship with all the benefits and no responsibilities and either can end it just as quick as it started. New excuse for this century,being with some gay guy friends. This relationshiphas some very strong trust issues to solve before moving on or else history will just keep repeating itself over and over again. You just have to figure out whether youre better off with or without him and move on. Good luck and Happy Holidays
2007-12-20 11:23:42 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl you have the wrong question.. You know why women sleep with married men, they are lonely, stupid, and usually unaware that they are married in the first place. What you should be asking is Why would a girl stay with a man that left her to sleep with another skank after giving birth to a beautiful baby girl, or why would a woman stay with a man who is a habitual cheater, emotionally abusive, accusing, and unreliable. Think of it this way. If it were happening to your beautiful daughter, what would you tell her to do,, twenty years from now? That's the advice you should take, better to be with the pain of moving on by yourself Than to live year after year,with him cheating behind, (or in front) your back. Its better that you leave now that you only have one child from him than if he locks you down with 3 more kids while hes out doing his business.
2007-12-20 11:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by JUDAS RAGE 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Some girls? MOST GIRLS!
I have been single for awhile and have many single girl friends I am like the only one of all of them that will not date a married man!
I have some friends that the wife will even go to the house and the man be in her bed and lie and say she does not know the guy.
Women are so desperate have low self esteem and your stuping to their level if you except it!
He will never change and the only women he will eventually change for is the one who will not put up with it.
A man will treat a women how she allows him to treat her.
You cannot blame the women you must blame the man.
2007-12-20 11:17:54 · answer #7 · answered by lisalisa 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes there are women out there that dont care if a man is married or not, sometimes there married too & just running around with guys just to feel important. There sluts in most cases & dont give a fiddlers damn about you or your kids, Tell your husband to stuff it, you deserve someone who takes YOUR side & remains faithful & respects his family, He's no better then she is.
2007-12-20 11:31:06 · answer #8 · answered by yvonne p 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they are have NO self respect and NO self esteem. They can't maintain a relationship that might lead to a committment, so they fool around with a man who is already committed to someone else.
Then again, some women are just stupid, trashy whores!!!!
2007-12-20 11:59:19 · answer #9 · answered by ncgirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh no!!! I was 6 months pregnant when I found out my fiance was being DNA tested for his ex's brand new baby!! most recently he admitted to being "friends" with a coworker. I asked her about it and of course she denied it and he defended her. What the f is wrong with people.
I'm still with my dumb husband who I am tryin not to HATE everyday. So I can't say run and leave him. But our men are dogs and deep down we KNOW it.
Good luck on making a choice. But I would be very mindful os moving far for him in the case of those issues.
Oh, I send a lot hugs your way. Men are so sleezy.
Oh, and by the way. If a women is bangin' the married man. You have balls enough to do it, but not balls enough to admit it. I have plenty of words for them, but I like posting on here so I will save those for my inner thoughts!
2007-12-20 11:21:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋