My wife and I have been separated for 3 months and about a couple of weeks ago we started going to marriage counseling. In the first session, she told me and the therapist that she's only here to help me and that she still wants a divorce. That she doesn't want to take the RISK of returning back to me. Now that we are on our 4th session, it seems like MC has been useful. She seems to be more into the therapy sessions and has not bought up the divorce. We even scheduled future therapy appointments together. I am still a little bit confused of her intentions and how much longer are we going to go to MC until I know whether to move on or reconcile. I don't want false hope but the therapist said that she's confused. I dont want us to go to counseling for the next 3 -6 months and at the end, we still going to divorce The MC wants me to be patience. We have been together for 8yrs and married for 1 year. No infidelity, physical abuse, or drug use. Just BAD communication between us.
2007-12-20 11:01:01 · 4 answers · asked by DMa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know that I have asked similar questions before but I need more advice from guys.
8 years is a long time to throw away over something so trivial.
2007-12-20 11:02:30 · update #1
just see how things go.. like the lady said she is confused and needs time to work throgh things in her head and when she sees things mroe clearley then you may hive a very good chance at reconciling...
2007-12-20 11:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right. There IS bad communication between the two of you, and this is a prime example. The question is, what do you really want? It sounds as though you really want to get back together with your wife. If that is so, you have to decide that you will spend the next 3-6 months (or whatever it takes) working toward that goal. There is no guarantee, but it's the only way you have a chance. If you do not want to get back together, you can stop marriage counseling right now and get on with your life.
2016-05-25 05:38:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to make a marriage, so wouldnt it make sense to take the same two with the same desire of outcome to save the marriage. You guys are headed in the right direction,only you need to look at the positive side of this and get on the same bandwagon as your wife. Worry about now and tomorrow will take care of itself, if it even comes at all. You have alot of time together to just not throw it all away here so give it your all and whatever happens will happen but you ll have no regrets about trying. It will take some time to repair the damage done but isnt she worth the effort? Good luck and Happy Holidays
2007-12-20 11:17:30 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of her intentions for marriage counseling, you will both come out having received help and hopefully it will save the marriage. Marriage counseling isn't about fixing one person, it's about helping two people learn to compromise and talk things out.
2007-12-20 11:09:50 · answer #4 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋