My husband and I are in the middle of a divorce. Im wanting full parenting time with my children as I have been the primary parent through their years. His laywer has threatened me with bringing up stuff from the past. When I was 18, I was going through a lot and went into the hospital for depression. He has said that he would take this to the judge. My question is:
Can he get that information without my permission and is it admissable in court? This happend way before got married and I am now 34, with a great job and am attending school full time.
2007-12-20 10:53:10 · 8 answers · asked by Erin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I left him because he was verbally abusive. Right now, the time he does have them is partly shared with his girlfriends. When he is at work, she watches them. My hours are fit to my girl's schedule. So, when they get off of school, I will be there.. he doesn't get home till 6 or so.
2007-12-20 11:06:00 · update #1
As a parent to them.. Im not sure how is he now but when we were together, he was very condinsending and controlling... barking orders and what not. I just think they are best with me for the majority of the time.. and I don't want to take them away, in my order, I wanted him to have them 4 days every other week. He works so much that he hardly spends any time with them anyway.
2007-12-20 11:10:25 · update #2
If he would be reasonable he would agree that you as an responsible parent and mum, has the children. Not for your or his sake but for the kids. Digging up stuff is an other way of saying," I will get you". But the one he is hurting the most are the children. they have to suffer the greatest loss of all by the divorce of their parents. If things can not be worked out on a person to person basis than at least be respect full towards your kids. I am not a solicitor but have a great affection for law and civil cases and can tell you that only will work in your advantage. Think of it this way. He allows any judge to see his mind setting towards his ex-wife and kids, by using this kind of nasty argumentation in a court case. And by doing this he is not helping himself. Therefor, even though it looks form his perceptive as an advantage it is actually his own weakness and with respect to parent ship towards your children and ex-wife not an good example. good luck
2007-12-20 11:20:19 · answer #1 · answered by jetstream.driver 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he will have to suboeana the medical records, the lawyer or your ex wont be able to see them , they will be sent straight to the judge. since it happened a long time ago before your marriage and you havent had any problems for a long time , i wouldnt worry, they are just threating you.
why not try shared parenting? you are both parents, you havent said anything about how he is, if he isnt all that bad and a decent parent , why not share parenting, just cause your divorcing doesnt mean he isnt a good parent. give it a try . kids deserve both parents , and its easier on them when its joint custody.
2007-12-20 19:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ஐDanielleஐ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The court always prefers to leave the children with the mother and that was before you got married. He can probably get ahold of those records, but he cant use them against you. I know that for sure!
2007-12-20 19:25:31 · answer #3 · answered by Is that your final answer? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are hippa laws. I really don't know where lawyers fit into this but I can tell you that hippa laws protect your personal medical information. This means that other people do not have access to your personal medical information without your permission.
2007-12-20 18:59:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He most likely could get ahold of it to use against you. But as long as your doing good now there shouldn't be a problem.
2007-12-20 18:57:33 · answer #5 · answered by Felicia *Proud Mommy Of 2* 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
lawyers will say anything to scare you......get your lawyer..as good as you can afford and let him help advise you.....i don't think crap from the past can be brought up but every state is different and don't gamble on this ....get good advise from a lawyer
2007-12-20 18:59:24 · answer #6 · answered by vi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not worry about that since it was so long ago.
2007-12-20 18:56:41 · answer #7 · answered by Jennie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would talk to your own lawyer about it.
2007-12-20 18:58:36 · answer #8 · answered by Sandy Ego 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋