Just out of curiousity. Like, I know when I get married I will feel happy with whoever I have, but there are so many people in the world...so should there be that someone who is SO perfect? But I'm not married so I wouldn't know what it feels like to be in love like that or whatever. So yeah, answer. But just for the record, I'm really bored and I'm just being curious about what some people will say!
2007-12-20 09:58:23 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In Russia, we have a saying "better is the enemy of the good". When you have a good thing, it's foolish to yearn for something that's "better". I think, when you're happy, it doesn't really bother you to think that you haven't lived out every possible lifetime - you're grateful for what you have. But if you find yourself constantly wondering about what else is out there, to me it would seem that you're just not in a happy situation. At least, this has been my experience. My husband isn't "perfect" - but he makes me happy; it really doesn't matter to me that I haven't tried out every possible permutation; I'm thankful for having met him, that's all.
2007-12-20 10:25:23 · answer #1 · answered by Sandy Ego 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if you feel you have found The One, you will still feel you are possibly missing out on someone else--someone possibly better? That's a fact that comes from limiting your options from infinite to one. And after you are married you may still meet people you feel you might prefer to your spouse. The question is whether you decide at that point to be faithful to the commitment you've made or to pursue the other option. In the end, my opinion is that most of us could do well with many different possible matches, but eventually we end up with one and it makes sense to stay with the one you choose, if you are happy and the relationship is healthy.
2007-12-20 18:04:28 · answer #2 · answered by surlygurl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there are so many people in the world but there truely is only one perfect match for you. The reason we date is to find the qualities we want out of a spouse. Honestly, I could've married many men I dated and been happy, but it doesn't compare to meeting the right one. I have always valued myself highly and decided I would never settle for anything less than what I want and deserve. It gets discouraging at times and you think it's not possible to find that one person, but because I stayed strong, I did find them and I can't imagine being with anyone else.
2007-12-20 18:02:48 · answer #3 · answered by PhantomRN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm married and in love, also have a baby girl of 16 months. And yeah, I do believe there's someone out there that would be better for me, but since I love my hubby and baby I don't consider leaving him for his shortcomings cuz they're not big enough. We do have our fights and fallouts, but eventually make up. We're all flawed and who's to say they're perfect, cuz no one is. So at the same time I'm thinking I wish my husband were better, he's probably thinking the same about me. So we make the best of it and stick together. That's what family is all about, isn't it?
2007-12-20 18:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by writeaway 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When a married couple is truly happy they could
care less if someone better for them is out there
because they are so pre-occupied with the one
they love that no-one else matters. Being married
over 20years, and happy, believe me I could care
less who may make me happier as anyone who
can make someone happy for 20yrs, shows me
that there is no better person.
2007-12-20 22:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course there is someone better. Of the 2 billion women in the world i probably have come across a thousand, talked to a hundred, known a handful well and courted 3.
Ain't a freaking dumbass to think she is better then everyone else.
2007-12-20 22:43:25 · answer #6 · answered by boundless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right there are so many people out there.....but when you find that perfect person and marry them you will never think again about who else is out there. I know I don't!!! My husband and I may not have a perfect marriage but we are perfect together!!!
Momma_Bear
2007-12-20 18:03:13 · answer #7 · answered by the_morris_bears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're completely and fully happy, you don't have to wander or think that there's someone out there that is better.. you appreciate the person you have for all that they are and love them unconditionally; those thoughts never come across my mind because I am engaged to the most amazing man. My past relationships helped me to realize that he's the one because he is so different from them and treats me amazing.
2007-12-20 18:10:01 · answer #8 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Foolish people think there is one perfect mate and all will be great if they only could find them.These people will never be happy with there mate because once the imperfections are reveled they will think they have chosen unwisely and missed out on their "sole mate".Marriage is a matter of maturity
2007-12-20 18:22:17 · answer #9 · answered by Marble77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am happily married although i do believe there might be someone perfact out there for me I am so content to let that person go for my hubby
2007-12-20 18:02:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋