I really don't want to have kids. I hate kids. I can only tolerate maybe 5-15% of children. My mom keeps on saying that men like kids. Wahtever, the ones I've seen abandon a girls who is pregnat or they don't want to have anything to do with her because she has children. All my friends think that I'm crazy for not wanting kids.Plus, I wouldn't want to spend all my money on someone else. I want to club, party, work, and shop fo rhte rest of my life. I only depend and provide for ME! My needs come first. Yes, I'm selfish and arrogant and I have no problem with it because I know what I want. I gonna have a husband or a long time boyfriend. Plus, I don't want my body all messed up after I have a child. Women in my family don't really take motherhood that well, they either end up getting big or have a lot of scars and stretch marks. EW! No offense to mothers or fathers who do a great job like mines.
2007-12-20 08:45:44 · 23 answers · asked by Ayita 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Bonny-So What if I sound evil? I tell the bloody truth. So what if I'm selfish sometimes it's good to be selfish. You can only trust yourself at the end of the day.
2007-12-20 08:59:01 · update #1
People seem to have it fixed in their tiny pea-brains that women are "supposed" to have children. It is an irritating generalization. And yes, many people tend to treat those of us without children like we are either "selfish" or defective.
Some of us can't have children, and yet we still have to hear from morons who say things like "but you just haven't found the right person yet" or "Don't be silly. You won't know until you try". Or my personal favorite: "It's your christian duty to have children. Don't be selfish" WTF? I've got the death certificate and the surgical scars. I think a dead son and a missing uterus more than excuses me from fulfilling my "christian duty".
Truthfully, it is nobody's business whether someone has children or not, or whether they want to. That sort of thing is way too personal. And anyone who decides to be judgemental about whether all women HAVE to procreate should decide whether they are willing to personally pay to support all those kids before they open their mouth.
2007-12-20 09:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
They shouldnt look down on you. Not having children is YOUR choice. You say that you arent ready for a child to come first, so why subject a child to that? I think what you are doing is UN-selfish when you look at it that way.
Your attitude is NOT in any way disrespectful towards mothers or motherhood; you are just stating that it isnt for you. People should show the same respect for your choices.
2007-12-20 08:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by melissa 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Yes the police have a right to shoot ANY armed person. They probably wouldn't be able to sleep at night. But what would you want? For two three, or MORE cops to die before being able to disarm the child? I'm sorry but those police have a right to defend their life just like anyone else.
2016-05-25 05:11:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're wise for realizing that you don't want kids and that's a lot smarter than having them and treating them like crap or going on welfare.
I used to feel exactly like you until I turned 30. Then I started to kind of want children. By 35 I decided I really wanted a child. I still haven't gotten pregnant and now I'm 38 and going to a fertility clinic, so go figure. Just remember your feelings could change.
2007-12-20 08:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by Wintergirl 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I applaud you for recognizing that with your self-centered attitude that having kids is not for you. If you are only focused on yourself and maybe a long-term adult relationship, you should NOT have kids.
To be a good parent, you have to care more about someone else than you do yourself. You do not. That's okay. Better to realize it now than down the road when you've got a kid and you abuse or neglect it. There are lots of ways to not get pregnant. Educate yourself about them and then just live your life as one party after another, never caring about anyone besides yourself.
2007-12-20 11:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by oldernwiser 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It really depends a lot on where you live and who you hang out with. After not being able to conceive a child after 4 years, I realized how much fun it is without them. With all the over populating there is no need for everyone to have children. You might be a great mom, but you could do other things to help others instead and still have your weekends child-free.
2007-12-20 08:54:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Because society feels that women are baby making machines, whose only jobs are cooking , cleaning, taking care of the kids, be a hostess, and most importantly pleasing her man. Don't worry about it. My aunt is a single and successful woman and i get really annoyed when my grandparents tryto set her up with someone. Marriage is great , but i you dont want to have kids its your choice, after all it is YOUR uterus.
2007-12-20 08:51:06 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie L 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
yes, most people would think that a woman that thinks like this is selfish. But our only purpose in life is not reproduction, women can do better than that. Humans are not gonna be extinct, there's billions of people who do plan in having kids. If they don't like a child-free woman, oh well.
2007-12-20 08:50:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
I get the same thing! My guess for why they do it is because it's the stereotypical role of a female to have kids. It's always been that way and they think it should remain so. To me, it's a personal choice and shouldn't be looked down upon.
2007-12-20 08:53:11 · answer #9 · answered by aussie8191 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't know how other guys feel about that one...(oh...wait a second...I guess I DO know how other guys feel about that one...so on behalf of all males out there...I can say with total honestly, that...
"Women Not Wanting To Have Kids" is a huge "plus" in our eyes...and therefore...we look "up" at that kind of thing...not "down..."
Jolly Good...
2007-12-20 08:50:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋