When a mother is awarded full custody of a child does the state automatically go for child support?

Question

When a mother is awarded full custody of a child does the state automatically go for child support against the father or is it the mothers decision to get child support? I live in ct. and she wants full custody of our son. Can she go for just custody alone without me having to pay support through the court? Ladies, please dont jump to conclusions and judge me. I am a good father and I pay for him its just a question. Thanks

Answer 1

The mother would have to put a petition in through social services to get child support. Once that happens you have to turn in your paystubs and the state pays the mother the amount they think you should be paying her until the ordeal is agreed upon. If you don't argue it they get a court order and that is that you just pay the state each month and they pay her. If you do argue it you will need to get a lawyer and be prepared to pay back support!

If you guys come up with an agreement, plz, plz, get it in writing and have it notorized! She could later ask social services to set an amount and after going to court you will most likely have to pay back child support (unless it is the same amount) plus the current support.

My husband had an agreement with his ex to pay a certain amount each month. She decided she wanted more money later and went to social services. We went to court and he was ordered to pay the higher amount starting when she made her claim at social services (1 1/2 years!) and the lawyers for the state did not want the judge to count the amount he had been paying her towards the past due!! Fortunately, we had a nice judge that said they had to count the money he had already given her. Anyways we are finally getting the past due amount paid for and that was 5 years ago!!! The amount was outlandish. Had my husband had the agreement between them signed and notarized they could not have gotten any past due amounts.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

The short answer is no.

The state will get involved if:
1. She is receiving any kind of assistance such as welfare, housing or medical.
2. She asks the court to accept payments from you as part of the original order.
3. You fall behind and she asks the court to enforce support.

I paid through the state as it was part of our initial order. I found it solved many issues of the "I haven't got my check yet". One call to the state always showed she was wrong.