I broke up with my fiance after he slept with my best friend 2 years ago.
I broke my relationship with my best friend too. You can imagine what I've been through .
Now just a couple of days ago, I ran into my ex fiance and my ex best friend together at the grocery store and they're pregnant. I saw rings on their fingers so I guess they got married. The conversation was brief and awkward. I just acted like I'm happy and asked how they are and they faked their smile too and we continued shopping.
I'm so depressed and still single. My ex fiance still looked handsome (and I thought he would look messed up but he actually looked better!)
How do I move on?
2007-12-20 08:15:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well be glad that you caught him early. What if he did that after you guys were married and even worse after you and him have kids? Things are not that bad. They are both your ex so let it roll off your shoulder and don't give it another thought. You'll find your man and you will be happy too.
2007-12-20 08:20:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
To claim that sucks would be an underestimation. You are a better person than me considering the fact that they only thing they would've gotten from the is the middle finger. Persons could say "oh, you can recover from it." The sad fact is there are things in lifestyles you under no circumstances recover from, but you learn to hold on despite that. My advice is to get again into the swing of things. Go get a brand new haircut and colour and check out online relationship. No longer that look is that predominant but it surely sounds such as you need a self assurance boost and get your mojo again. Matters happen for a intent that might not be obvious unless later. Perhaps this was once the cruel truth you needed to make you consider about relocating on or recall a massive change. I understand it sounds cheesy but there may be anything better out there for everyone however you don't see it til you elevate up your head and look round with clarity.
2016-08-06 12:41:10 · answer #2 · answered by aievoli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to take it a day at a time. After two years you must have been holding out some hope that the two of you would get back together? I would imagine they felt a bit guilty seeing you, but it sounds as if you pulled it off alright. Now is the time to concentrate on yourself, and not whether he is going to fall apart without your presence. If you are two years down the road of depression, perhaps counseling is in order to get you over the hump. He is the one who cheated, not you, so stop blaming yourself, stop fooling yourself. If he DID come back to you now, he would be even flakier than he was before.
You have had a horrible betrayal by the two people in your life that you were closest to (outside your family). It takes time to get over it, but it can happen.
2007-12-20 08:26:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that sucks alright.
I think seeing them pregnant and married and apparently very happy will do a lot to help you move on, all on its own.
Think that you can sit there and hate both of them, but since they are happy together they won't feel your hatred and it's just a waste of time on your part. All you're doing in that case is causing yourself pain and anger at this point. And that's not good for you.
It's time to get up and forget about them, toss them in the trash bin in your mind, and go on with your own life, find your own happiness with someone who really deserves your love, and can love you back the way you should be loved.
2007-12-20 08:29:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Beloved~this situation is a foregone conclusion but can I give you some encouragement for next time? When you decide to marry someone, its saying that you love them through all their faults and you are willing to work with them to overcome things. It doesnt mean you resign yourself to the life of a 'doormat' but it does mean that you are going to have a heart to forgive your spouse WHEN (not if) they mess up; be that in adultery or any other sort of painful situation. People (in general and on YA in particular) are really unforgiving. If a person messes up once they'll say dump him. No marriage...NO MARRIAGE can survive under those restrictions. You need to learn how to forgive thru painful things (even if the world tells you you are being dumb). If it had been me, (and I've been here with my husband), I would have forgiven him. Not because he deserves it, but because God calls me to forgive others. It was painful and I was pissed off for a long while. I had to fight past those feelings w/God's help. You know what the result was? My husband and I are together...very much in love, and he realizes that I really love him unconditionally. He has not cheated on me since and he appreciates me more than ever.
So when you meet your future husband....dont be so rigid. Im never going to say that adultery is ok...its not. But if you have a heart to love him past his immaturity and/or selfishness (with God's help), you may find a wonderful husband on the other side.
As for this situation...just realize that whom God has for you, is for you...and he wont LET you break up with him. He'll love you too much to let you get rid of him.
2007-12-20 08:48:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get out there!
Wish your exes well and move on.
Find some people with similar interests and get together with them. Sometimes you will meet someone at some event, or maybe make a friend that will introduce you to someone you will take a liking to.
Adopt the attitude that "living well is the best revenge".
2007-12-20 08:21:54 · answer #6 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You move on by changing your ways! Go somewhere different on weekends.... join a club...take lessons in dance or art or flying! Grab a girlfriend and go to Sports events. When your life is more interesting... YOU will be more interesting and you'll find someone. Staying in the old rut won't help you! Good luck!
2007-12-20 08:27:22 · answer #7 · answered by Gina C 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel what you're going through. What I try to do is I try to do things that I like. I shift my focus to something that would make me happy.
I really hope you can do the same. take care.
2007-12-20 08:22:38 · answer #8 · answered by Renee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They r different people now & 4 each other ... Different than they were w/ u (like childhood friends). It's life. Keep ur good memories of them so u don't get bitter. Then u can move on!
2007-12-20 09:01:17 · answer #9 · answered by Ann 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sure handled seeing them together better than I would have...I probably would want to pick up the nearest thing and throw it towards them....Just take comfort in the fact...that if he cheated on you with her .....then he will probably cheat on her.....Just gotta luv them best friends sometimes....
2007-12-20 08:22:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋