Ones 13, and ones 14!
2007-12-20 07:59:31 · 42 answers · asked by sazzieh 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I would not allow that. And this is coming from a girl who strives for independence like that and considers herself to also be sensible.
This is not a matter of if the girl is smart and mature. Twelve years old is a little young to go that far away from home to go out shopping. They need at least one adult present who can maake sure they're okay. Even if you know your daughter (I'm guessing) would be fine, you cannot account for the maturity of the other two children, and friends can have a great influence on others and be able to sway judgment.
Not to mention, there are also other factors. This is a city that I'm assuming they don't know inside and out. There's a chance they could get lost. Not to mention, bad people out there could surely take advantage of a 12 year old girl with friends who don't know the area well. You can't count on the city's strangers.
If this were in an area more close to home, you would at least have the security that she knows where she is and you know you can reach her more easily. But if a train in necessary to get there, it's too far.
And believe me, even if she tells you she is sure she'd be fine, and comfortable with going alone, there is still a part of her that is at least slightly nervous or scared of going without adults, even underneath her excited exterior.
2007-12-20 08:13:21 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
She may be sensible, but who said the people out in the world are? A 12, 13, and 14 year old probably couldn't hold back a middle aged man from kidnapping or doing worse to her friends. I would say no, at least have an adult with you.
2007-12-20 08:12:12 · answer #2 · answered by aℓanah.♥ 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It isn't the girls you've got to think about. Could they stop someone from taking advantage of them?
Most posters have pointed out that there are plenty of idiots out there who might wish to take advantage of anyone of the group. I'm sorry, but this is a really sad fact of life now.
As to keeping a phone or something with her, this can always be discarded.
Also would the 3 girls stay together 100% of the time in ALL situations? They might have an argument and dump one of the group.
Sorry girls: Please take an adult with you.
Another thought: You wear seat belts in the car, not because you're with the safest driver, but because there are other people on the road too.
2007-12-20 19:34:54 · answer #3 · answered by Post Girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By themselves the whole time?! In the biggest city in the country walking around by themselves. I'm 12 and my mom rarely lets me go to the mall with a friend. Even if I do have my cell phone. Maybe if the parents were somewhere within a mile or something but not alone!
2007-12-20 08:40:00 · answer #4 · answered by dαncєr<3 [єrín] 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
No! comes to mind! Maybe a big local town but not a city.
I'm 15 and from Ireland, I'm allowed to go to Galway city by myself, it's an hour by train and I know it pretty well, but I'm not allowed to go to Dublin with friends (2 or 3 hours by train)
2007-12-22 09:49:38 · answer #5 · answered by Ciara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when i was 12, my mum trusted me enough to let me go into london, with my friens of the same age!
as long as you trust her, and lay down yhe rules such as
keep your phone on at all times
text me when u arrive and are about to leave
stay together
etc
then i say she'll be fine!
just make sure she knows not to take advantage of this freedom, and to behave in a mature way, to prove that she can be trusted!
2007-12-21 07:20:36 · answer #6 · answered by It's A Secret. Shh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, since all the mall shootings, no. But if you offer to drive them, and do your own shopping and meet the at the deli to buy them lunch, that may be a bit better. Then you' be there if anything happened, instead of a frantic phone call on a mobile. I have just been aloud to go in the mall by my self, and I doubt my mother would let me go on the bus, and I'm 13!
perhaps your daughter and her friends could take a self defense course together, also!then if some weird creep came up, they could be safe.
2007-12-20 08:22:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I guess it depends on the city... The city near my town is Chicago, and no, I would not let a 12, 13, and 14 year old go the city alone. I would want an adult there with them. I would let them go into different stores than me (or the adult) as long as they promised to stay together and check in with me, but I would want to be in the same area in case there was a problem.
2007-12-20 08:06:14 · answer #8 · answered by Jess 5 · 1⤊ 4⤋
it depends on the child, if you think shes sensible then yeah why not? just make sure you talk to her first though - you know stay with your friends at all times, take a moble phone just in case, dont go away into quiet alleys etc etc.
2007-12-21 12:11:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
urr no i was only just allowed into town then and im 17 at the mo so it wasn't yonks ago plus i went 2 years ago and it was hard work trying to keep everyone together the money the trains ect its a lot at that age to handle.
2007-12-21 07:58:08 · answer #10 · answered by day-dreamer16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋