well i am a 29 year old mother to 3 little girls. me and my husband have been together 10 yrs now. we havent gotten along that well in all that time, but i later found out i have bipolar and have done pretty well this year on my meds. i feel alot closer to him now then ever. hes always been really clingy to me, but recently this year, it seems i became better and hes always yelling and screaming and losing his temper over nothing lately. even with the kids to. am i wrong to think he may be cheating or thiking about it ?? hes so distant now, and i see no reason for him to be this way, especially when things have been going so well. were both in therapy and hes not getting anywhere with it. seems it doesnt even help him. im just looking for opinions i guess, thanks to all in advance.
2007-12-20 07:51:12 · 4 answers · asked by saphirespice 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe he doesn't know how to handle the "new" you. Have you considered another therapist? Sometimes it takes going through a few to find one you like. If it doesn't work then you either need to accept his personality or move on.
No, his being distant doesn't mean he's cheating, but it means there is some stress in his life.
2007-12-20 07:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you've been with him 10 years and from the sound of it (tell me if I'm wrong) you've been at least a little dependent on him until recently- you're getting healthy and he doesn't know what to do with that. Will you still want him around if you don't "need" him anymore etc etc etc. He hasn't figured out that that's what he's feeling. If the therapy isn't getting him anywhere maybe he needs a different therapist.
2007-12-20 07:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by LB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suspect you 2 had an unhealthy/dependent relationship. When you get better, he gets worse as a direct result. Maybe he needed your fialure (judgement addict? control? need to be upset?) and as you fail less, he becomes less happy. Maybe you were never the problem at all, just reacting to him, who appears normal so long as you do not.
It sounds convoluted but at www.fhu.com they are experts in such things. Good outfit, nothing to join. strongly suggest check out "be still and know", an exercise which will greatly eliminate need for bi-polar meds by overcoming the cause.
The doctors are great at cutting and sewing but don't have too many clues about the CAUSES of disease, especially mental.
2007-12-20 08:00:37 · answer #3 · answered by who WAS #1? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to sound mean but 3 little girls and a bi-polar wife sounds like he is really stressed. Suggest you need a new therapist.
2007-12-20 07:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by Tough Guy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋