2007-12-20 07:47:19 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
lost nephew in may sis last dec aunt in sept ughhhhhhh cant stop crying
2007-12-20 07:54:19 · update #1
oh lost bf (best friend) of 13 yrs just few weeks ago and left hubby again few weeks ago uhhhhhhhhh
2007-12-20 07:55:04 · update #2
Make a MEMORY TREE for them...by hanging an ornament that you have made for each one (a little paper poem or a list of five things you love about them) tied on your tree with pretty ribbons. You'll feel better knowing they are 'sharing' in your holiday and you can enjoy your tree even more!
2007-12-20 07:51:33 · answer #1 · answered by Beach Girl 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Must be really tough especially around this time of year when families are supposed to be together. Have some faith and believe that they are in a better place and someday you will see them again.
One thing that I have found thru the years is that talking about those people and remembering the good times always helps in the mourning process. Do you celebrate Christmas? If you have a Christmas tree you can place an ornament in honor of each person. That might help you "see" them there with you. Sorry for your loss sweetie, I hope this helps some.
2007-12-20 07:55:09 · answer #2 · answered by texicangirl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know just what you mean. This is actually the perfect time to remember those who have passed. Mourn for them fully and keep their memory alive. Especially remember their part in making your holidays wonderful and alive. Don't try to force it from your mind, but work the grief through completely and then focus on how fortunate you are to have had their love and place in your life. Remember how much they loved you and how much they would want you to enjoy this time of year. Use the power of the love that you have for them to guide the way you treat all people here with you now, friends and strangers and especially those in need. Be a conduit for their compassion and kindness and be loving and conisderate in their names. Happy holidays, my deepest sympathies friend.
2007-12-20 07:55:40 · answer #3 · answered by *ifthatswhatyoureinto* 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a lot of love ones that passed away and I know that this time of the year is hard. But you must remain focused and look on the positive side and remember the good times that you shared. No one can take those away from you ! Try to focus on some of the things that were important to the deceased family members, and dont try to forget them.. Cherish the memories.
2007-12-20 07:53:25 · answer #4 · answered by sprng4ward 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I've also been through a few holidays where it seems everyone you were thankful for has departed. The best advice I can offer is to give yourself some time. I tried to set aside a chunk of time...and during that time I allowed myself to wallow completely in my grief...I cried, raged, drank a lil wine listened to sad music...then i promised myself when the chunk was done I'd do my best to paste a fake smile on my face and do what needed doing. Eventually..and I dont mean over night..but eventually I'd notice that it wasnt my fake smile, but a real one. Hug's to you this year, hang on...you can make it through.
2007-12-20 07:53:28 · answer #5 · answered by rschjohnson 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
after reading all the answers i have nothing more to add-its been 4 yrs since my mother and my best friend passed on-still hurts like hell-i think the getting active thing will help a lot-i mean with some friends etc -and my heart is with ya and i hope it gets better
2007-12-20 10:08:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Butterfly,lam so sorry,l have been in mourning for someone,and stayed in the last 3 Christmases as it was such a sad time for me. This year,lam going to be brave, and l have arranged to go out. Be brave too, our loved ones don't want us to feel sad- they would much rather we celebrate their lives, but l know how hard it is, Love Ya, Stay Strong. Love Jo. (((hugs)))
2007-12-20 09:48:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Count your blessings that you had them as long as you did and try to put an extra effort to enjooy those that you still have with you.I lost my Dad 2 years ago and its still hard but I have a good cry and thank God for the good memories and the love we shared I miss him very much but I know the life he lived was as near perfect as it could be..after all he was my Dad. Smiles
2007-12-20 07:54:23 · answer #8 · answered by sassyalways26 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that, way too many times. I found that only time changes things. Try starting a NEW tradition or carrying on one of their traditions. When my mom died, Dad started a new tradition of baking a certain kind of cookie and giving them away. When dad passed, I continued that tradition added my pumpkin bread and my husbands beef jerkey and now they are both still with me in my heart, but it's a lot easier to deal with. The first 2 years or so are super difficult, but it does get easier with time.
2007-12-20 07:54:15 · answer #9 · answered by The Cat 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
This is a very depressing time for you, I understand I lost my mom last year, and part of me hates having Christmas without her. She was always the one who made it right!! ya know?? Take time by yourself to cry, and think of how this person would of wanted Christmas. That helps me a lot. Good luck.
2007-12-20 07:53:18 · answer #10 · answered by just me 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋