Dealing with the holidays has me completely depressed. It is my first Christmas that I have to share the kids with the ex. I don't know how any other mothers out there deal or dealt with this, but I feel horrible. The closer it gets to Christmas, the worse it is for me. I feel like crying all day long, and I know that sounds crazy, but it is just really effecting me horribly. I have a great boyfriend who I love so much, and even he can't get me out of this thought process. Am I the only one feeling or felt like this? I am hoping this will end after the holidays, because if it doesn't, I know that I am going to have to talk to a professional.
2007-12-20 07:45:03 · 5 answers · asked by Shannon29 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't worry about the things you have no control over.
Thank God you have great kids.
Thank God you and kids are healthy.
Thank God your kids love you sooooooo much.
What else is there so enjoy the time you get to spend with your great kids and without your xhubby they would not be here, He was good for something.
Hug your kids tight and kiss them and smile knowing they will miss you.
If you carry on you will put allot of stress hard feelings on them.
I know you are not that selfish person.
Merry Christmas.
PS also be thank full for your great boyfriend.
2007-12-20 10:14:00 · answer #1 · answered by teeman824 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your effecting more than yourself. Your making the very ones you love miserable also. Enjoy them while you have them, make each Christmas the best. If you can't suck it up. go to a Dr. and get some meds. And remember things could always be worse.
Now understand others including my wife of 13 yrs. say I'm a pretty good guy. But I have went years with out seeing my son's because my ex would get mad over the sun shining in her window and take it out on me. My kids have gotten their Xmas presents in April, May, and as late as Sept.
He may be useless, but if he's a good dad, you should be happy he wants to see them. My step kids in the last 13 yrs. have not got a Bday card, Xmas present, a phone call, nothing. My youngest just turned 17 guess who they both came to live with when they were old enough. It's all about Karma, what you put out there, it does come back to you.
Then they would be the ones feeling like you do. So know that life could be worse for you or your kids. Put a smile on your face, know life is pretty good for you. You have your kids, every ones healthy, They have a father that's in their life. You have a good man in yours. Now what was the problem again? Merry Christmas, God Has blessed you.
Hope this helps
2007-12-20 16:03:36 · answer #2 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey... sorry about what you're going through. Holidays can be stressful; to be honest, I'm usually less-than-happy around the holidays - my family lives very far away, and before I was married I would often spend holidays by myself, which can be pretty depressing, especially when you see all these people getting together with their families. Even when I do travel to see my family for the holidays, it's still stressful, as I hate traveling, and it takes 24 hours to get where my family's at. I can't stand the airports, sitting on the plane for 14 hours straight, being stuck somewhere because the plane is late, dragging luggage through endless security checkpoints... I get very stressed out. And then, after a short visit with the family, I have to say my goodbyes and fly back, knowing I won't see them for another couple of years; it's very hard. So yeah, holidays can really be a drag. Plus, I'm told that a lot of people feel more depressed in wintertime (shorter days, less daylight and all). Try to brace yourself, and look on the bright side. Things will get better.
2007-12-20 15:57:44 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy Ego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop obsessing on yourself. These children have a father and they are going to spend this time with him. Put a smile on your face, and be excited for the kids as this is a new adventure for them. Make sure they have a camera and take lots of photos, if they have access to a computer they can send you photos online work with your ex to open up a "photo album" for the both of you to share. Focus on the joy of the children and focus your attention on your boyfriend while they are gone, make this time for you and he to do some more bonding.
2007-12-20 16:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holidays nowadays is all about gifts and money,,,Nothing to do with the real meaning of it. Relax,,it will be over next week!
2007-12-20 15:50:49 · answer #5 · answered by Lord Libido 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋