i am a real woman and why is my boyfriend doing this to me we have been together for ten years and he had this fetish for ten years now so is he gay
2007-12-20 07:40:21 · 14 answers · asked by Sheila C 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You say you've been together for 10 years so long enough to discover whether he's gay or not :-)
You say he's had this "fetish" as long as you've known him, so I guess that's what it is .... he's just enacting a "fantasy" ?
And if that's the case I guess he's "bi" in the most tenuous fashion .... the object of his gay fantasy still has to look like a woman.
He could also be us using the fantasy to deal with his own deeper gender identity issues .... many "admirers" have surpressed TV/TS inclinations .....
But few real transsexual women live up to their porn industry depiction !
Most pre-ops would not be impressed with being objectified for their despised genitalia. The only women satisfying a guy's "shemale" fantasies are likely to be on the game or doing it for the money in some other way ....
If the woman your boyfriend has taken up with is a typical pre- (or even post-) op TS woman who's looking for an attractive guy for the same reasons we all are (i.e. friendship, chat, hugs, kisses .... maybe sex if we're post-op), and your boyfriend respects her as a woman not as an object, then he's straight hetrosexual and your relationship is threatened in the way of so many relationships. (She's not stealing a married man after all .... in my book "no ring" = "fair game" !)
Please don't assume that you're any more "real woman" than women like me .... or that transsexual woman have any lesser claim to a cute guy !
If he's just "banging" a "TS" escort it will be short lived and its up to you how much forgiveness ten years together has earned him ?
2007-12-20 11:55:43 · answer #1 · answered by laura_eva_b 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, cheating is cheating and he is a louse.......
Please do not call a transsexual woman a man which is what you did by implication. Many men are attracted to pre operative transsexual women or transgender women (keep the penis) because they think this means they can "explore" homoerotic fantasies without being gay...Most transsexual women do NOT appreciate being wanted for parts they don't want to have, but not all. These guys normally run like red-haired stepchildren from a post op transsexual woman which pretty much tells you for sure what the attraction was. We call them transfans. Sounds like your bf is one of them. Forget him. I am so sorry this happened to you
2007-12-20 08:45:57 · answer #2 · answered by Cathryn 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you ask a woman then she will say "Damn your boyfriend's gay". Ask a hetro man and he will say "No it's a transexual so it doesn't count."
Ask him if the tranny threw one up his whazoo, that's usually how the fantasy plays out in str8 guys minds for some strange reason.
Str8 men have a pornified version of what a transexual is and that they are put on this earth to live out every taboo imaginable. Of course with out any real guilt because they are not really a man. The choice is yours to make.
2007-12-20 07:45:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That could go either way depending on who answers.
If your bf considers the TS a female (any idea just how far that person is with the changeover?) then I would say the chance of him being gay is slight.
If he considers the TS as a male that is becoming a female - you've got me there.
This could go along with the straight male thing about 2 women getting it on. I'm gay so any symbolism on that is wasted on me.
Have you give any thought that he might be bisexual?
2007-12-20 07:47:04 · answer #4 · answered by nycguy10002 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-04 03:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether he's gay or not depends on whether he's cheating on you with a transsexual MAN or a transsexual WOMAN.
Either way, he's cheating on you; are you going to put up with that?
2007-12-20 08:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like something that can best be resolved on the Jerry Springer show.
2007-12-20 07:47:05 · answer #7 · answered by Vito C. 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He might possibly be. That's something you'd need to bring up to him. I don't agree with the cheating, that's not right even if he is gay.
2007-12-20 07:44:35 · answer #8 · answered by I'm forgetting what? 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He is, at the very least, busy. And unfaithful. Remember, you sleep with whomever he sleeps with. He brings the germs home to you. Act accordingly.
2007-12-20 07:51:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well if he leaves a real woman for a transexual, I would say he is gay, or at least bi.
2007-12-20 07:45:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋