If your 18 yr old son came to you and said that he wanted to get married, what would be ur advice?

Answer 1

First at all.......I should say.....Ok..if you want to get married, do it, but think well b4 doing it bcoz I'll not work for you and ur wife. If you are adult enough to get marry, then be adult enough to support a house, a wife, and the kids that can come. Asume ur responsibilities.
Marriage isnt a joke, and things arent easy.
If after that, he still thinks to get marry, then I'll bless him and then PRAY for things to be fine.
Thx to God, that was not my case..my sons are already adults, but arent in a hurry to get marry..what isnt good either.
All the extremes are bad !!!!!!!

Answer 2

let me tell u abt Josh and Lilly
They were in high school, loved each other, and on the same year, they got married without their parents blessing, so they had to work for their teachre (moan the grass, clean the house...) to earn a room and a little money to spend on daily needs. soup was their meal everday, they werent able to hangout coz they had no money, they lived sadly, they werent able to buy clothes or anything..and they knew that things are NOT going to be alright. so if ur son wants to get married at 18, I BEG U (although i dont know u), do not allow him, he'll live miserably ever after, its a lifetime commitment. its the biggest responsibilty, its not a take it or leave it choice. He's young, and still not on the straight road. Never accept, try to do everything to stop him, i was just reading some examples on this topic in the Marriage and Divorce section..

Answer 3

well first I would know if my son was dating someone because I would have a strict rule no dating until he is ready for marriage... I would go over the facts... has he finished school? Does he have a job where he can support a wife? Is he emotionaly mature enough to handle a wife and possible a child since this could happen after marriage. Most likely the answers will be no and he and I would reason on these facts. I am sure if I raise him right he will know what to do :)

Answer 4

The customs are probably different in Lebanon. When my 18 year old son got married, he let me know a few days after it happened. He was in the Navy at the time, and didn't need my permission. It lasted less than a year, because she ran off with another guy while he was at sea on an aircraft carrier, taking everything they owned.

All you can tell them at that age is, I'll be here whenever you need me, and I wish you better luck than I had.

Answer 5

I would think it was a joke.
My sons and daughter know that education comes before marriage......18 is still too young to commit to a lifetime of taking care of someone else and yourself.
I've seen it many, many times, and sadly after a year or so, these young folks get bored with each other, but they are stuck for life, because there are no grounds for divorce scriptually except adultery.

So my advice would be: give yourself time, don't rush into something that you might live to regret.

Answer 6

You mean like both our daughters did ? lol

I guess it depends on the individuals but our world says let them live together , that's okay but don't encourage them to commit in marriage.

I thank God that our girls firstly chose Godly men ....then that they chose to honour God by getting married , no matter how young , & to put God first in their marriages !

Our sons , well that's a different story....

I guess , as far as your question is concerned , it all gets down to the level of commitment , the individuals & their level of maturity & their personal circumstances. I would not recommend it as a first option but I think it would be unfair to try to block them just because of my own feelings .


Anyway , over here they don't need our permission ...they are considered adults at 18 & would only be seeking our blessing !

Answer 7

Make a deal with him. Tell him you'll pay for the wedding AND the honeymoon 100%, if he will just wait until he is 25 (same girl). If he loves her, and she loves him they can wait, save their money for a house, etc. Chances are, they won't make it and you will have saved him a huge mistake...and lots of divorce money...but, if they are really meant to be, then you will be proud and so will they of a day in the future after they are more financially sound, emotionally involved and mature enough to make that lifelong decision.

Answer 8

I'll be brief where you're verbose: 1) Paul called himself "Father" multiple times in a spiritual sense. This is the sense we use when calling a priest by the honorific. It's a silly objection anyway, as if we called them "Mister" it wouldn't change a thing about their office, duties or relationship. 2) Only Latin Rite priests take a vow of celibacy. No one is forbidden from marrying - it is completely legitimate for a Byzantine Rite priest to be married and to preach in a Latin Rite parish. Men actively choose celibacy as a discipline. 3) The Bible is vague on Mary having other children. The Gospels are mainly taken from Q documents and other fragmentary sources which, written in Aramaic, do not state definitively whether Jesus had brothers or cousins. The Greek word that we translate as "brothers" is a later innovation. Besides, Joseph disappears early on, Mary's remarriage is never mentioned, and at the Crucifixion Mary is not taken in with her other children but with John, who is unrelated to Jesus. If she had other children (who would have to be younger than Jesus) then where are they? 4) You're right, the so-called "queen of heaven" in the Bible is not Mary. We don't worship her. We don't worship Mary either. Those Catholics who are devoted to Mary (I'm not among them) ask for her prayers. Where Catholics are found to worship Mary, a Saint, or anything other than God, they are rebuked and corrected. 5) Mary is not the mother of God the Father, but of Jesus, and not just His human part. Jesus, fully human and fully divine, was conceived, birthed and raised by Mary. She did not bear Him in the sense of creating His divinity from nothingness, but rather she was mother to the Divine as well as to the human. Otherwise, Jesus would have two separate natures. This is called Pelagianism and was disproven in the 3rd century. 6) No Catholic confuses the Holy Father Benedict with our Holy Father who is in Heaven. Only non-Catholics are confused by this. To avoid confusion, we most often call him the Pope. 7) You aren't mentioned in the Bible, neither is the U.S., nor are proper church buildings, nor pews, nor the existence of the English language. Nor are seminaries, nor schools of divinity, nor Sunday School. Yet all of these are part of every church in the U.S. Are all of us adding to the Bible, then?

Answer 9

I would tell him to be patient, and encourage him not to rush into things so soon. But don't press the issue to much because of the Romeo and Juliet effect. Sometimes people make the wrong choices because every one is against their decisions.

Answer 10

He's 18 and that is his decision. However, I would ask him why he wanted to get married so young.